I don't know. I think that the future is so uncertain that women want to rule just for one day even if they can't have a say for the rest of their lives. They obsess, rant and rave and then bask in memories afterwards. Men esp. Pakistani men aren't supposed to sentimental so I gues they just look at it as if they are getting someone extra for their house and thats that.
Being humble is a another attribute which mankind should apply. If women think like that their whole life that this is the only day they can enjoy their life, their lives will never change. You women have made it hard for yourself and then blame us.
SHARKMAN YOU NEED TO GROW UP! AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN THE WEDDING FORUM ANYWAY!
I was upset because I didnt have professional photos etc....that is not the topic of the thread....I am talking about obsession as in what clothes to wear, favours etc!!!!!!
SHARKMAN YOU NEED TO GROW UP! AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN THE WEDDING FORUM ANYWAY!
I was upset because I didnt have professional photos etc....that is not the topic of the thread....I am talking about obsession as in what clothes to wear, favours etc!!!!!!
But Ami123, there is certainly nothing wrong with a person being obsessed about what they should wear on their wedding day.
It's one of the most important days of their lives, one of the most photographed days of their lives.
Surely a person should feel that they could look back at their pictures in 10 years time and be happ with what they wore??
I think thats how I differ from everyone here on Gupshup. I think that having my first child was the most important day of my life and when I graduated...I have lots of pics from these events....each to their own. I am in no way saying that my wedding was not important but I think this culture puts too much emphasize on wedding, like its the best day of your life etc and not enough on other big events in your life....I dont think anyone else on the wedding forum agrees with me on this one??
I dont think many people like me either on this forum.:(
I've been reading this particular thread for the last couple of days and feel that i've got to put my two rupees into the mix.
For a young girl, (at that point) her wedding is going to be the first major event of her life, for me personally it was more important than my graduation because i was making a committment to spend the rest of my life with the one person who i felt was my soul mate and i wanted the day to be special. yes i did obsess about how i looked, my outfit, the hall, invites etc But we had a really great day. years later, having had 2 beautiful little girls i can share those memories with them. It still is one of the most important events of my life, together with having my children BUT i personally dont feel the need to criticize anybody who wants to have the most perfect day.
Maybe in the long run it wont matter what colour the table runners were or whether the centre pieces matched or not but it really is upto the individual to do what they feel most cpomfortable with and to be honest i'm getting a bit sick of people judging others about how they want their big days to go. If you're happy to have a simple event good for you But equally if you want to have something bigger go ahead and do it..
A bit more solidarity folks and a bit less judging methinks!
Rant over.
^ your 2 rupees worth? I have a whole halwa's worth or rupees to input!
OK, sad joke over.
Now then, i wanted to say that my wedding was NOT the most important day of my life, neither was my graduation. I feel as if i am still awaiting the most important day of my life but i dont know what it is.
i heard from someone that getting married is completing half of ur religion? is this true or were they mis informed? maybe thats y its important as brummie bird says first most significant part of ur life!
^It's true. The Quran says that getting married is completing half of your deen. It's not obligated that everyone should marry but rather stressed that marriage has its significance and benefits.
SHARKMAN YOU NEED TO GROW UP! AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN THE WEDDING FORUM ANYWAY!
I was upset because I didnt have professional photos etc....that is not the topic of the thread....I am talking about obsession as in what clothes to wear, favours etc!!!!!!
"I" need to grow up? You're the woman with a husband and child at home but waste your time getting meaningless attention from strangers on an online forum. You whined about your low budget wedding and all the things it lacked while people here tried comforting your baseless cries for attention.
As for your slick remark about the specifications of what this thread is about = its funny how you decided to leave out photography and decor' from your question.. how convenient! Since that's what you sulked over! ha!
"I" need to grow up? You're the woman with a husband and child at home but waste your time getting meaningless attention from strangers on an online forum. You whined about your low budget wedding and all the things it lacked while people here tried comforting your baseless cries for attention.
As for your slick remark about the specifications of what this thread is about = its funny how you decided to leave out photography and decor' from your question.. how convenient! Since that's what you sulked over! ha!
WHY ARE SOME PEOPLE SO NASTY ON THIS FORUM AND DONOT RESPECT OTHERS OPINIONS! I know I said I was going to leave this forum but I couldnt help writing this as it was implied to me.
Sharkman: I said I was leaving this forum but you still keep arguing with me! I am not in the mood for all this as I have many more important things to worry about in life!
May Allah help you Sharkman...I have put an end to all this but its like your just getting the thrills out of being nasty to a women! I still dont know what you are doing in the wedding forum!
Bride2be: That wasnt a very nice comment. But everyone is entitled to their own opinions like I was to mine.
Sharkman: you are very nasty..and excuse me I have got a life with mashallah a good career in my hands, a great husband and a beautiful daughter so can we please put this to an end and I was only on this forum to pass time in my holidays!
everyone needs to calm down. those that are leaving, i wish you well. those that are staying, chill and let's all move on to the main topic of the discussion-- since ami started this thread and now ami is leaving, i think we can safely say the part of the conversation that involves her is now over.
Says the woman who endlessly whined and obsessed about her imperfect wedding on GS for ages! These women spend money and make things perfect however they can so that 6 years down the line they don't have to come on a public forum and constantly whine about how things should've, could've, would've been better.
Makes sense? Now you shouldn't wonder why..
Agreed!
I don't wish to stir the debate, however ami123 you should be able to understand why wedding planning turns into an obsession especially since your talking about it 6 years after your wedding. I personally think we waste too much money on weddings these days but if you can afford to then people should do things moderately as Islam is the middle path.