I was just wondering ever since I joined this forum I have noticed that wedding planning has become so obsessive compared to previous years. Of course, one wants to have the best wedding and to look like a princess on their weddings but why spend so much money just for one day where people just come, eat and go. I think some people tend to forget the main significance of the day. Men dont seem to be obessed about weddings so why are women?
Sorry for anyone who has taken offense, I apologise beforehand
I don't know. I think that the future is so uncertain that women want to rule just for one day even if they can't have a say for the rest of their lives. They obsess, rant and rave and then bask in memories afterwards. Men esp. Pakistani men aren't supposed to sentimental so I gues they just look at it as if they are getting someone extra for their house and thats that.
It's u're day.. spend as much as u want on whatever u want! I know guys that actually flew to karachi to try-on their sherwani's so guys are equally bad :P
I didnt realise that it had already been discussed..However I have read that thread and that is about designer clothes and top makeup artists. I am talking about that and unnecessary favours which people arent going to hardly remember. Ok, I agree that the menu should be good but people arent going to care if you have 2 flowers on your table or one or have you have a menu
It isn't sad ami, he has the cash and he wants the perfect fit! Dubai-Karachi is a 2 hour flight! He's happy! Every girl dreams of a perfect wedding and has set-idea's of how she wants it to be, I blv every girl shud try to make the best of it as well. Why spend on catering when u know people will talk abt how bad the food was.. what things u left out.. and wished u had kababs instead of kofta's! So get u're dream dress, favours, photographers!
oh ok I didnt know it was 2 hour flight. But still, I know some girls that don't care if their wedding is perfect or not they care more that they love the guy they are getting married too. Not all girls think wedding is the be all and end all of everything lol.
I think everyone has a different perspective on this and trying to rationalise or understand of how various people feel about their big day is next to impossible. On one end, you could be the daughter of a steel giant (Laxmi Mittal's daughter anyone???) and jet off to Paris with your guests for a lavish wedding at a French Palace, inviting the likes of Kylie Minogue and Bollywood stars to entertain you! On the other end, you may want a quiet reception and get together with close friends and family at your house...who knows what's best?...it's just that different people place a different emphasis on their big day...
Personally, I don't think anyone should go beyond their means and resort to taking loans from banks/friends/family...I think it can become a burden for newly weds, especially when they're starting out on a new road. Still don't get me wrong, if you have the money and you feel you want something for that special day, then good for you :)
as long as you are not totally in dept with bank loans and god knows what I guess you can do just like you want on your wedding day.
but unfortunalty many people do end in depts trying to match the "standard" overexpensive wedding hype that is going on nowadays. I personally know of a couple who ended up being divorced, because the guy couldnt afford to buy a house/apartment (because of wedding loans) and the girl didnt wanna stay with his family anymore!
I agree with this. Unless its a very close member of the family or a dear friends wedding whom i love very much i would cherish favours candles etc. But 90%of the time i don't give a hoot and most ppls weddings aren't important to me. I would leave the the stuff on the table as i have enuf clutter at home. Seriously most ppl that attend don't want things to remember ur weddings with. My mum has a drawer in her kitchen where she has bidh pouches, some of them have the couples names on them. Half of are no longer married any more. Not being cynical. Its just another wedding in a long list. Not at all being rude. But those wanting to be mini celebritys on their big day just remember the most of us don't care about the extra touches etc. I am not alone in thinking like this before you all have a rant at me. So just stop fretting over minor details and focus of the spiritual and religous aspect of the union because thats what a wedding is isn't it?
^ brides and grooms who choose to do stuff such as favours/flowers etc, do it for themselves and thier memories. Videographrs/Photographers cost an arm and a leg these days and for me to watch back my video/pics of small touches and seeing my family happy/lauging - makes it all worthwhile for me and my husband. Thats what I care about and I think most guppies on here! Families!
i had a small wedding with close family and friends, and i can say with absolute confidence, every single person appreciated the details, the small touches, and the effort i put into making my wedding a memorable experience for all involved, and still discuss it with me on occasion-- so i know it was worth it entirely for me to focus on the details.
and i do think a well thought-out event and details are what make one wedding stand out from the multitude of other weddings people attend.
when i attend weddings, i tend notice the little details, the flowers, the cake, and the favors etc. and the other things about it outside the bride and her jewellery- i mean, if truly the food means nothing and the favors are considered crap and left on the table, then really whats the point of getting married in such a big way? its depressing to consider it like that... and if you're not that close to the bride and groom to appreciate their effort, then why attend the wedding?
perhaps pakistani weddings need to be condensed into smaller, more intimate affairs where people attending know and love the bride and groom and want to be there rather than 600 random strangers. or perhaps pakistani guests should be less cynical and critical and reflect on the importance of the event and the care the bride takes when she is so "obsessive" about the little things on her day.
I don't know. I think that the future is so uncertain that women want to rule just for one day even if they can't have a say for the rest of their lives. They obsess, rant and rave and then bask in memories afterwards. Men esp. Pakistani men aren't supposed to sentimental so I gues they just look at it as if they are getting someone extra for their house and thats that.
i'm not sure what group of women you're generalizing about, but i find this sort of offensive to the rest of us who don't feel like we "obsessed, ranted and raved and then basked in memories afterwards" because our future's are uncertain and this is the only day we feel we can control. and i think you're also being horribly unfair to pakistani men by generalizing them under this one umbrella, and assuming that for them getting married is just as simple as acquiring another family member. marriage is a big deal and usually large desi weddings are a big part of that deal... and your statement is trivializing the effort girls put into their days and making it seem like nothing more than a waste of time and money.
i apologize if i misunderstood your statement somehow, but this is what its coming across to me as...
I was just wondering ever since I joined this forum I have noticed that wedding planning has become so obsessive compared to previous years. Of course, one wants to have the best wedding and to look like a princess on their weddings but why spend so much money just for one day where people just come, eat and go. I think some people tend to forget the main significance of the day. Men dont seem to be obessed about weddings so why are women?
Sorry for anyone who has taken offense, I apologise beforehand
ummm Ami weren't you the guppan who was regretful of the fact that her wedding was not grand and that more preps were going into your sister's wedding than yours? and aren'tyou the one who is still having photoshoots years after her wedding? Hmmm. Maybe ppl put so much effort into their weddings sso they don't have regrets down the road?