Re: Why has husband been given this much of a right?
".. if someone wants a decent justification/explanation - **athough we shouldnt try to justify/explain any verse from quran or hadith **…
“… **many women have problems with everything and are always dissecting every little religious matter **…”
“…** Now if I said the same to a man** …] He would regard the words more literally and would be less likely [than a woman] to conjure up reasons for asking …”
Not sure what school of thought the above POVs reflect, but it’s interesting that if one personally doesn’t care for intellectual prodding or study, there exists a compulsion to discourage others from the same. The Prophet Muhammad is known to have said that all mujtahids (those who use independent judgment to settle a matter) are correct. This is intended as a figurative reminder that scholars/people do not, and should not, agree on everything, and that such disagreements should be acceptable; after all, Islam has a long-established tradition of disputation and disagreement that started during the time of the Prophet. We lost that - as this thread demonstrates - when the gates of ijtihad (independent reasoning) were closed.
Anyone who is serious about faith will delve beneath the surface. There’s nothing impressive about learning by rote, or emphasizing taqlid (copying/obeying without question). Unless one is a cow or a monkey, one will ask why. God tells us we’re different from animals because we’re given the power of rational thought and free will. It seems regressive to criticize the OP simply for being curious, or to condescend to women for asking questions - as if inquisitiveness is a vulgar tendency which ought to be nipped in the bud. Sexist, patronizing comments abound here, sadly. Views that don’t agree with those of the majority are shunned and stigmatized as “western/modern” and the bearer of the view is considered a heretic. Let’s keep an open mind and facilitate intellectual curiosity instead of sucking the oxygen out of any thread that dares to ask why.
I think no one labelled the OP as “heretic”.
Sure, Islam allows to have difference of opinions and diversity but we are not doing ijtihad here in this thread. Looking at the chain of a hadith to see its authenticity and explaining it in context of Islamic teachings, in comparison to calling it nonsense and hogwash…BIG DIFFERENCE.
I can see how you’re demonstrating “difference of opinion” and at the same time those who follow a different opinion are cows and monkeys in your sight. Well done.