I read this hadith some where: "* If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would order woman to prostrate to her husband due to the greatness of his right over her."*
It has confused me why is it that the husband has been given this many rights or what is it that they do that our religion focuses this much on a woman attending to her husband? The biggest miracle is of child birth and women go through that even then husbands are told to be greater in every way.
Please don’t take it personally, nor is it a religious debate (else i would’ve opened it in religion forum). Its merely for understanding what is it that makes husbands receive the highest stature?
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i think its because they are protectors and maitainers....and for being a mother we have been blessed with most beautiful gift heaven under our feet :) so makes sense :)
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I agree. I think its because they are ideally supposed to be our protectors. and*if they live upto the role defined for them in Islam and fulfill the duties they have to perform towards the wife and children, they would be deserving of the darja the above hadith gives them.*
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its a very beautiful feeling when a husband takes care of his wife and child...fulfill every need and protecting her from outside world.....when your husbands loves you so much your heart starts worshipping him like mine do :)*
agar sajda allowed hota tou mein already ker chuki hoti :)
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If its protection that makes it that level, then our fathers do that a lot too maybe even more than required protection. There's got to be some other bigger reason ..
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I read this hadith some where:
"* If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would order woman to prostrate to her husband due to the greatness of his right over her."*
It has confused me why is it that the husband has been given this many rights or what is it that they do that our religion focuses this much on a woman attending to her husband? The biggest miracle is of child birth and women go through that even then husbands are told to be greater in every way.
Please don't take it personally, nor is it a religious debate (else i would've opened it in religion forum). Its merely for understanding what is it that makes husbands receive the highest stature?
U know that is the problem.I feel sometimes aalim/people make some literature/teachings more heard than others.
Like lets say speaking of a child-parent relationship in islam,as you google it you will find what are the duties of a child to his/her parents and not otherwise.Its not like there isnt teachings on parent duties towards child.
I think Islam has made everyone special in different ways. If it made a man have such an honor, it told women have jannah under their feet.May be if there werent such teachings ,we wudnt really understand the importance.Its a way of making everyone special.
Re: Why has husband been given this much of a right?
U know that is the problem.I feel sometimes aalim/people make some literature/teachings more heard than others.
Like lets say speaking of a child-parent relationship in islam,as you google it you will find what are the duties of a child to his/her parents and not otherwise.Its not like there isnt teachings on parent duties towards child.
I think Islam has made everyone special in different ways. If it made a man have such an honor, it told women have jannah under their feet.May be if there werent such teachings ,we wudnt really understand the importance.Its a way of making everyone special.
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I think this concept must have come from the circumstances of those times. Society was not as stable as it is today and there was a constant threat of aggressors. Women were routinely taken away as "war loot". Husbands were then the natural protectors.
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This particular tradition is narrated in a variety of forms and via various people. All of them are singular transmissions (i.e. weak). According to Khaled Abou El Fadl the context and structure of the traditions makes them suspect. If you're interested in delving further, reference his book 'Speaking in God's name: Islamic Law, Authority and Women.' I've always found this hadith particularly offensive to my sensibilities as a monotheist. Considering the obsessive emphasis and philosophy behind avoiding shirk, the idea of prostrating to another mortal doesn't gel with me. Point being, if something disturbs you intuitively, it's a sign to dig deeper. Blind acceptance leads to apologist explanations.
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Well, you have to see the hadith in context to a husband's role in Islam, if I try to apply this hadith on my own husband then I feel no shame in saying that I would definitely do that if it was obligatory. He takes care of me, honours me, listens to me...who else deserves my respect and love if he doesn't?
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^agree with hareem here. There's a whole chapter of sahih hadith containing the Holy Prophet SAW's sayings on marriage, rights of husbands and wives. And for marital life to be successful both have to make an effort here and concentrate on what they have been ordained by the Quran and Sunnah to do for the other (rather than focusing on just their rights). If the husband does everything he can for his wife, honours her, respects her and loves her...then he deserves all the respect and love too.
So the hadith in that sense holds true. But people mostly opt for the religion of convenience thing .. pick out the favorite teachings (that go in their favour) and completely ignoring the rest.
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Its dangerous,very naive and quite frankly useless to just pick out a sentence long Hadith and see how it fits with the modern social standards. You do know the hadiths in proper authentic hadith books come with pages and pages long context, explanation, and implication from time of Prophet Muhammad pbuh to further interpretation of modern schoars. You are better off consulting a scholar or reading a authentic book yourself, instead of asking for explanation here.
