WHY girls work?

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@PyariCgudia

^ Do you know that in many countries, “babies” start schooling at the age of 3 and it does them no harm?

Just because the American system runs on starting school at 5, doesn’t mean its perfect. Research is showing the earlier you get a kid enrolled into an educational facility, the better it is on their development. There are lots of different kinds of daycare. When you become a mother, you’ll investigate into those daycares and it will become apparent to you that there are some really good ones out there that are educational in what they do.

Hell, I’d send my kid to one of those. Get them ahead of the rat race. :k: You know, so they can get that high LSAT score to get that awesome JD degree. Except they’re actually going to use it.

i nvr said that it harms them..u ppl dont read well do u?

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Man with a Plan

How many desi families can afford bling bling mercedes? How many? What about those who keep them in their house because they can’t afford outside help. Do you know nursing homes can be helpful for patients like say the specialists over there whose job is to take care of people or no a woman at home with no prior experiece is going to do the thing and on time beside all other things.

Oh, the guilt by association its just amazing that only American people are like that not desis they don’t hate each other, really

Offcourse she should stay, when did I say she shouldn’t…

People what I am trying to say is that plz stop being ethocentirc your culture is not the only one or the best only. Its just in your eyes…people live and love in different ways and they express it in different ways. If a mom chooses to go out and work, she is working for her kids and their future and if she is staying at home she might be doing it for her kids. So, the point is nothing is right it is always about what parents think is right but just because a family has kids you can’t say that she should stay at home. If she wants to and can she should work outside.

^ i agree with that… so we’re on the same page.

women have the right to choose…neither is right nor wrong…i nvr said that (for those of you who think i did)…I choose to stay home because that is my preference…and no one should tell me that im wasting my degree for doing so. I dont see it that way…i am getting my education out of the way b4 i have kids so i dont have to worry about it later in life. If need be…i have a degree to fall back on…but that is MY choice!

PCG…u have no right to tell me that im wasting my degree away just because in the end i choose to stay home and raise my kids or that i shouldnt have taken up someone else’s seat…i earned this seat…i worked my ass off just to get into a good law school…i deserved it. The person who didnt get admited didnt work nearly as hard as i did…so how can u sit there and tell me that he/she should have gotten the opportunity rather than me? I will utilize my degree when the time comes…but that doesnt mean i need to work while my kids are young. I wanna be able to make breakfast for them in the morning without having to rush off for work…i wanna be able to make dinner for them rather than doing carry out. I wanna be able to read them a story every night without feeling exhausted. I wanna be there for my husband rather than turning over in the bed and sayin…“not tonight hun im too tired” Sure…Some women can be superwoman and do it all…but i dont wanna be that woman…i just wanna be a mom and a wife.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Rukhsarbibi

I would go insane if I didn’t work. I cannot even stay at home over the weekend because I am so used to being out of the house. If someone told me to sit at home (which happens during a long weekend), I would literally be pulling my hair out by Day 3
I love the financial independence and not having to ask my parents/husband for trivial things.
If it is financially possible,** I would like to stay home with my kids before they start school because I have seen what happens at daycare.

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exactly.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@lollypop_man

i think she is the only one here… who gets it.

plus, getting into Georgetown law is no joke. you might want to check out what that means… really.

thank you

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@nia_khan

hun it will take time for you to get it :~)

like i said..thats your opinion…your entitled to it…it’s not right nor wrong. Im entitled to my opinion as well so dont tell me that i dont get it!! i could very well say that you dont get it…but i wont because i dont belittle ppl like that.

[LuxuryItem]

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@AnGeL EyEs

Originally Posted by PyariCgudia
^ Do you know that in many countries, “babies” start schooling at the age of 3 and it does them no harm?

Just because the American system runs on starting school at 5, doesn’t mean its perfect. Research is showing the earlier you get a kid enrolled into an educational facility, the better it is on their development. There are lots of different kinds of daycare. When you become a mother, you’ll investigate into those daycares and it will become apparent to you that there are some really good ones out there that are educational in what they do.

Hell, I’d send my kid to one of those. Get them ahead of the rat race. :k: You know, so they can get that high LSAT score to get that awesome JD degree. Except they’re actually going to use it.

i nvr said that it harms them..u ppl dont read well do u?

Once in her infinitesamal wisdom, PCG advised all guppies and guppans to take LSAT at gunpoint. I say aginst you, she ain’t faring so well.

[dope]

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Those who claim that day care centers create smart kids will soon be putitng socks in their mouths when they see Angel_eyes' home-schooled little einsteins winning Howard Scripps spelling bee championships.

Take your pick. You want a smart Georgetown law grad as your teacher or a mediocre education major from Kalamazoo college?:D

[Pinstripe_Danda]

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^ I don't know...lets start with you...

[lollypop_man]

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hahahha… that will kalamazoo community college in animal science for pcg where she can work closely with pigs. an online nursing degree for nia_khan (so she doesnt have to cook any chapati… and can better spend her time cleaning doodoo). and a car repairing diploma for our south indian grease monkey pristpine.

@dope

Those who claim that day care centers create smart kids will soon be putitng socks in their mouths when they see Angel_eyes’ home-schooled little einsteins winning Howard Scripps spelling bee championships.

Take your pick. You want a smart Georgetown law grad as your teacher or a mediocre education major from Kalamazoo college?

[Impulse]

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I agree exactly with Angel Eyes. those are my exact thoughts too.

I'd rather learn from looking at other people....than learn by trial an error. like they say a wise person learns from the mistakes of others and a fool learns from their own mistakes. I have seen what happens to the kids of so-called working women...and I wouldnt want my kids to turn out like that.

PCG, NIA.....only start preaching ur ideas once ur kids are in their 20s. then we'll know if you were right or wrong.

[dope]

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@Pinstripe Danda

^ I don’t know…lets start with you…

Chill, dont get your dhotis in a twist, southie.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@dope

Those who claim that day care centers create smart kids will soon be putitng socks in their mouths when they see Angel_eyes’ home-schooled little einsteins winning Howard Scripps spelling bee championships.

Take your pick. You want a smart Georgetown law grad as your teacher or a mediocre education major from Kalamazoo college?

thanks dope… much appreciated.
however i nvr said that i want to home school my children (although i do think i would do a gr8 job doing so if i have the patience)…i just dont want day cares/nannies/babysitters raising my children. They are afterall the ones that spend most of the time with your kids while these career mom’s go out to work trying to become “independent” from their spouses:rolleyes:

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@lollypop_man

hahahha… that will kalamazoo community college in animal science for pcg where she can work closely with pigs. an online nursing degree for nia_khan (so she doesnt have to cook any chapati… and can better spend her time cleaning doodoo). and a car repairing diploma for our south indian grease monkey pristpine.

[_mIxEd_PiCkLe]

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there's no right way....different circumstances...individual outlook...what might work for some might not work for others,

i was raised in a family where both my parents worked, but my parents were still very much involved in my upbringing...

personally for me watching my mum manage both the household and hold a high position in her professsion aswell as my dad :) hehe has given me an outlook on life which i feel im lucky to have,If one chooses to be at home and raise their kids then so be it that isnt a lesser choice, but if one chooses to work then thats okay too, i like the feeling of working, and being able to provide financially and i believe that i can BALANCE bringing up kids and working!

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@*mIxEd_PiCkLe*

there’s no right way…different circumstances…individual outlook…what might work for some might not work for others,

i was raised in a family where both my parents worked, but my parents were still very much involved in my upbringing…

personally for me watching my mum manage both the household and hold a high position in her professsion aswell as my dad hehe has given me an outlook on life which i feel im lucky to have,If one chooses to be at home and raise their kids then so be it that isnt a lesser choice, but if one chooses to work then thats okay too, i like the feeling of working, and being able to provide financially and i believe that i can BALANCE bringing up kids and working!

nicely written…i wish more ppl had the same view as you.
For me personally…id feel guilty leaving my baby home for 8 hrs a day/5 days a week after just giving birth 3 months ago ( 3 mos=average maternity leave)

[fghd]

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@*mIxEd_PiCkLe*

there’s no right way…different circumstances…individual outlook…what might work for some might not work for others,

i was raised in a family where both my parents worked, but my parents were still very much involved in my upbringing…

personally for me watching my mum manage both the household and hold a high position in her professsion aswell as my dad hehe has given me an outlook on life which i feel im lucky to have,If one chooses to be at home and raise their kids then so be it that isnt a lesser choice, but if one chooses to work then thats okay too, i like the feeling of working, and being able to provide financially and i believe that i can BALANCE bringing up kids and working!

Thanx a million…for soo many days i wanted to wirte that but didn’t bother…but thanx dude!

[Impulse]

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some peopel mentioned financial independence etc. etc...and how youd'd want your own income for whatever reason. Once ur married, everything belongs to both of you together anyway...there shouldnt be a "this is mine and that is urs" kinda attitude. I have heard about alot of these women who talk about "this is my money and this is his".,...I dont understand why they want to be divided....

its always about "this is my car...thats ur car..." etc. etc. it just causes divisions and problems.....I would never say that to my husband....everything that is mine is also his and vice versa.

[Sara516]

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By financial independence they mean... if the guy turns out to be an asshole or god forbid dies, then ure still capable of living. You're not dependent on your husband. There's nothign wrong with having ur husband pay for everything but u shudn't be held prisoner by it... just because you can doesn tmean you always should.. im sure women willl share a lot with their hubbies n thas all gud n stuff... they're with him coz they love him, because they WANT to be with him, not coz they HAVE to coz of finances.

[Impulse]

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@Sara516

By financial independence they mean… if the guy turns out to be an asshole or god forbid dies, then ure still capable of living. You’re not dependent on your husband. There’s nothign wrong with having ur husband pay for everything but u shudn’t be held prisoner by it… just because you can doesn tmean you always should.. im sure women willl share a lot with their hubbies n thas all gud n stuff… they’re with him coz they love him, because they WANT to be with him, not coz they HAVE to coz of finances.

if god forbid the guy turns out to be an “asshole” or dies, then if she is educated, she can easily get a job. doesnt mean she has to work whilst she is happily living with him…

[PyariCgudia]

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Depends on where you live and what time period you are talking about. When I was a baby, long before your babies were concieved, preschools were expensive. Now, the school districts in our area have opened up free preschools for parents who can't afford preschools. It still leaves the middle-class family in a tight spot, cuz they can't get financial aid, but the preschool education is still a drain. Do a random survey at a local elementary school and see the percentages of students who went to pre-school. In my day, the percentage wasn't too high.