why do girls make such a big deal about working? what is so good about working anyway…I worked for the first time in my life a couple of months ago…and I couldnt wait till its over…when u get home, you feel so knackered …dont feel like doing anything!
I dont understand why girls make such a big deal about it…
Personally, I dont want to work myself…maybe 1/2 years just to get a bit of money to waste…but apart from that, I dont want to work. I’d rather chill out at home etc.
On the other hand, I wouldnt want a husband who says “I dont want my wife to work”…even though I dont want to work, i’d still like to be given the choice of being able to work if I want to…because thats a right given to me by Allah…and no1 but he should take it away.
so yeah, I dont want to work after I get married even though I could be earning over £30,000pa…but I would like to hear from girls the reasons why they want to work …
To be financially independent and that ambition and drive is enough to overcome allt eh tiredness and stuff. If you make ur own money, u can pay ur bills, u can live wihtout relying on family or husband. In case ur hubby turns out to be a jerk or god forbid he dies, you can support your family. And still some women acutally LOVE to work, believe it or not!! They spent years, undergrad and graduate/medical/law etc because they love what they’re learning and want to put it to use (most of hte time anyway).
Honestly, if I dont have to work, I don’t want to. I like having the extra money, but if he can provide properly then I’ll be happy staying at home.
yeah thats what im thinking, if theres no need for me to work, then I wouldnt. if there is a need, then i will.
there was one pharmacist i was working with who was about 45/50. she told me shed been working all her life…and has had kids but didnt take care of them properly…she blatantly told me that…she said one of her kids even died from falling off a bed (or something like that) but she still carried on working. she said she used to only take about a week off for maternity leave…she even called herself crazy.
Silly women…why do you even want to work…even go to school. you should just worry about squeezing out puppies, cooking chapatis and raising another generation of mama’s boys and subservient girls. Just marry someone who will take care of you. I am sure most guys look for these qualities in their wives. :k:
its important to go to school/get a degree…because its more than just about working…it makes u more open minded…intelligent etc. etc. i dont think a degree is just about working…its more than just that. if a girl isnt educated, how is she going to educate her kids?
pinstripe…you’re going to find it very hard to find a girl…with the kind of attitude u have about women.
well i dont think a job is important...i think an education is a must in case there is ever a need for me to work. Personally im going to law school only cause im not married...otherwise i would have just settled with a bachelors. I just wanted to keep learning ...im a geek like that. If I end up marrying someone financially secure than I dont want to work. I much rather stay at home and take care of my home and family. However Id like to be given the choice of either working or staying home...i dont want to be told what to do.
in todays world, when a couple starts there journey. if both husband and wife are working its financially more suitable. and it also creates more equality, where man cant come and tell you that he is the provider and you are his slave.
Yeah but if I am working and making money...all I want is someone who will do as I say. Professional women have expectations that are not real. Like working and being ambitious and utilizing their educational pedigree to excel in their careers. They expect their husbands to help with the kids and do some chores around the house. they want to establish themselves as wives, mothers, doctors/lawyers etc...just as men try to establish themselves as fathers, husbands, cab drivers/code coolies etc. they are out of their mind...there role is to stay at home and squeeze out puppies, clean the house and cook food.
it’s there loss that they arent as smart as me
they should have studied harder for the LSATs
actually…i do want to practice law…but i dont want to make it into a life long career. After having children I would prefer to stay at home and give them my 100% attention. You cant do that as a lawyer.
Im not sure…havent thought that far ahead yet. As you get older…ur views about things change…today i might say yes i wanna go back…but 2moro i might say i want to stay home…or perhaps i’ll wanna change my career path altogether…you nvr know this early on in life.
when both husband and wives work there are nannies, family, day care, etc..enough channels to take care of the children. Not all stay at home mothers are great rearers of children. It is not a profession by default.
but i can tell you one thing…the day care wont raise your children properly.
I must agree though…not all mom’s have good parenting skills…inshallah i will.
Then how did you get into law school? Isn't one of their requirements that you are committed to using this degree, or at least that is your intention and that you are motivated to use it, even if its for some number of years?
I know how law school works. Its not only LSAT scores that matter. I feel sorry for the kid whose position you took up...someone that could have used the career to support his family...
Maybe guys are right when they complain about women coming into these highpowered professional degree programs. If you wanted to just study, you could have done a masters or phd in a topic of interest and then moved on to be a housewife...
Are you kidding me? Kids in day care develop their motor skills faster, associaite with others faster, have a greater sense of identity and still know who their mom and dad’s are.
I disagree with you PCG. Women who choose to be housewives with professional pedigree have a greater understanding of the competitive nature of the world out there and learn to emphasize the value of education with in their family.
The moral of the story is, that one is not better than the other. It is up to the individual and their financial, professional, family situation and whether ambition and achievement is something they feel is important to them.
having read a lot of these threads recently about feminism and gender roles. I feel it is about the advent of choice that happened for women in the last 30 yrs. Girls have had a generation of role models to look up to and design their own choices.
I find it simulating to work, need it to keep myself sane. I have spent some time at home after graduation and I cannot wait to start work again. It drove me nuts, literally, cooking and cleaning all day and not doing anything mind-simulating. And I felt like my skills and brain was actually rusting away. Thats why i want to work : to use my skills and acquire new ones so I can stay sane.
well...i didnt want to get a masters...my interest was in law. I do plan on using my degree in other ways....i dont have to work in a professional setting to use it.
They spent years, undergrad and graduate/medical/law etc because they love what they’re learning and want to put it to use (most of hte time anyway).
