Where there is a will there is a way. Husband and wife can work together to arrange their schedules such that there is someone with the kids all the time.
You can take time off before the kids are in schooling age. And then return to your career later.
You can also take them with you to work, or do some work from your home part of the time.
Leaving the kids with daddy for a few hours in the day will not kill your children.