Re: Why don’t women…
Easier said than done. I have known my husband for 10 years. My husband lived alone when I met him. I fell in love with him and then came the expectation that I would have to live with his family. Believe it or not, I put away marriage for a good five years. I knew this would be an issue because more than anything I know the kind of person I am. I am extremely private and do not like to be around people. I am so private that I have never even had friends throughout school. I finally gave in because we could not live without each other and he made some promises which with each day seem impossible to keep. I have become this person I can’t even identify with. One thing I know is that I will never ask him to live away from his parents and he knows that. I would rather walk out than ask him for this. It is tough to give away your freedom and live each minute knowing that nothing is going to change and that you will lose whether you choose to stay or leave.
I hope you (at least quietly) pride yourself for being such a strong person to be doing that for him out of love. That sounds like a serious compromise and you seem to be doing your best to make it work.