Why don't women...

uzair1 · March 25, 2014, 6:03pm

Re: Why don’t women…

Based on some of the threads from the past week or so, I’ve come to the conclusion that many of the issues that result in drama are issues that really should have been considered and given serious thought prior to marriage. This raised a question for me.

If women feel strongly about a particular issue and it is quite important to them, why not hold out for a guy that feels the same way regarding said issue rather than marrying some poor sod who does not and then trying to change him later? For example, the living with in-laws bit. If living independently is quite important to someone and they feel rather strongly about it, to the point of this becoming an issue of contention later, why not wait for a guy that is also independent and feels the same way rather than marrying a guy that THEY KNOW is quite attached to his parents and is intent on living with them and trying to change him later?

The same can be said about specific attributes or personality characteristics. If a woman is after some specific characteristic in a potential spouse and it is quite important, why not wait for a guy that posses said quality rather than marrying a guy who does not and then trying to mould the guy to their liking? Overall, wouldn’t it be much easier and less dramatic to marry someone that is on the same page and already to your liking?

Not familiar with the idea of “constrained mindset” are you?