Why don't women like Mama's Boys?

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@Bigboi

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What do you women want to control? Is the Kitchen not enough?

yo, what in the hell are you talking about.

women should only have control in the kitchen from an execution standpoint, not from strategy, how else will get to eat what we want, and even in this execution control, we should be able to tell if their procedures and approaches are not delivering the desired final output then we reserve the right to exercise control that supercedes their operational control and sets new guidelines which they then implement.

what kind of a man are you?? amateur kaheen ka

[Reha]

@X2

and if he just makes his decisions bywhat his wife thinks he is hen pecked. The dude should listen to whomever he wants to but make his decisions on what he thinks not what anyone else thinks.

Its not about giving into his wife. This isnt a battle, its the way things are. Its a marriage, which is a partership between HUSBAND and WIFE. No where in my nikah nama does it state that I am bound in matrimony to my MIL.

So, marital decisions should be discussed and executed by husband and wife. No one else.

@Bigboi

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What do you women want to control? Is the Kitchen not enough?

You should open up a thread for yourself in Life1 and list all of your problems...

[yourfriend]

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Would a recently imported 20 year old BA English grad from Pak be able to give very good insights on mutual fund to her 10 year older accountant husband who has been here for 8 years etc.

biwi? bilkul nahi...
ammi jee kissliye hain.. ammi say poochiyye

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biwi? bilkul nahi... ammi jee kissliye hain.. ammi say poochiyye

well if the dude's ammi has lived abroad all her life and is a financial analyst, sure.

[X2]

Its not about giving into his wife. This isnt a battle,

but that is what you said..what you said was exactly that he should listen to one over the other, and my point was that he should listen to all, but drive towards whatever is the right decision. Maybe that is not what you meant, but that is what it reads as.

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A mama's boy in my opinion is someone who makes his marital decisions according to what his mother thinks and not what his wife thinks. r.

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its the way things are. Its a marriage, which is a partership between HUSBAND and WIFE. No where in my nikah nama does it state that I am bound in matrimony to my MIL.

So, marital decisions should be discussed and executed by husband and wife. No one else.

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It depends on what you mean by 'marital decisions' if it is something that solely is between the 2 ppl and has no real impact on anyone else then by all means

just because an individual is married does not cut of all other ties, once individuals get married they dont cease to be sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, etc etc. The impact of many decisions is not limited to the couple but affects others as well. and just getting married do not end one's obligations and responsibilities towards people other than spouse and kids.

That is further complicated when there is a joint family, whether the couple is living with one individual's parents, or the parents living with them. Impact of decision is one more than just the couple. so it should not be discussed and executed only by the husband and wife.

Life is simple and complex at the same time, the less complicated we make it, the less complicated it will be, and as long as the couple has mutual respect, trust and love there, they will be able to make even the toughest decisions without massive conflict.

I will however note that it is usually not the guys who tend to discuss their issues, situations etc with a large number of people but it is women who do that, and a good example of that is by doing a sampling of desi events, forums, advice columns etc.

[Sara516]

Re: Why don't women like Mama's Boys?

x2..ure...ure..a republican... omg.

[X2]

@Sara516

x2..ure…ure..a republican… omg.

yes and that is why I was volunteering for Obama’s election campaign and was at the victory party.
not only am I a republican, i am one of the real dumb ones, I thought he was republican…now i find out something else

[hitchki]

Re: Why don't women like Mama's Boys?

bascially, if we wanted *****es we'd get ourselves a dog

[McPendo]

Re: Why don't women like Mama's Boys?

^ You mean news paper delivered to your front porch?