huh, no, the problem is not that guys dont know how to treat mother and wife equally, but because these ladies in question want the impossible, they dont want the best attempt from the dude to balance things, but expect a 100% equilibrium at any given point in time, or all hell would break lose. This equilibrium is not a real one, but what they perceive it to be, so even if some dude was able to do the impossible and maintain 100% equilibrium, how it is seen is through the lens of the ladies involved.
The problem is that ladies need extra supplement regimen of maturity in interpersonal relationships.
cuz the issue does not seem to be just between women and their MILs, but with SIL ..husbands sisters as well as brothers wife, DILs, and assorted other ladies…cousins, friends..neighbours..etc etc
why dont guys have the same level of issues with their BILs..wife’s brother or sisters husband, father in law, cousins