Why don't women like Mama's Boys?

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@Pareezay

Please don’t even start with this whole emotional blackmailing nonsense. What are YOU doing for your parents? When you got married, did you not want your privacy? Clingy and selfish parents like that are the ones who ruin their kids’ live with their OCD behavior where they just cannot let go or even realize the boundaries especially when their kids are married. If you have raised your kids the right away, they WILL care for you and be there for you even if they are living a thousand miles away. You do not need to be jointed at the hip to your parents to be an obedient son/daughter.

And yes your DIL needs her privacy. Be understanding and respectful of that instead of turning your son and his wife’s life hell just because you don’t know when to let go. Yeah you have done so much for him but doesn’t he deserve to live his own life too? It’s beyond selfish to expect your kids to revolve their lives around you because you feel that they owe you so much. Oh and by the way, your DIL having her privacy or your son trying to live his life with his wife doesn’t mean they are throwing you out of their lives..

Most parents dont expect and ask for much, never throw their sacrifices in your face. In my case a great part of my life does revolved around them, their wellbeing, their mental comfort, their happiness. I dont see my liofe as an island where I am making decisions which are good for me and others are a secondary consideration each time. I do see people around me and that they prioritize things differently, but thats not me. maybe that makes me a mamas or daddys boy but I feel that I have a responsibility towards them, just like I have a responsibility for my wife and kids and siblings, their wellbeing is important to me. someone being an individual does not mean being an island, there are different expressions of individuality.

I do not undertstand why ppl have so much drama in their lives. my parents live with me for extended periods of time, just this year they were with me for 5 months, no issue, yes you have to accomodate more, but its just like we had to alter things when we got married, or we had kids, or whaetver, just realizing that decisions have impact on other people too and to factor that in place, sometimes making different types of plans, altering activities, or what we do in free time etc etc.

but really, is that such a big deal?

and no, i do not believe I can care for my parents as well when they are a thousand miles away. not even close. as they become older, proximity is critical.

I am not trying to paint myself as some goody two shoes guy, but explaining that individuality does not mean that the collective has no value, I find my individuality as a key part of my family and friends. This was something that was established before begum and i got hooked up, and its not just for my folks, her folks can come and live with us for as long as they like or forever, the inconveniences that reduced personal space or factoring additional ppl impact on decisions is significantly outweighed by having their blessings with us and for our kids.

PS: and no my wife is not forced to or expected to do their laundry, clean their bathroom or their room, they manage, along with help from cleaning lady who comes in once a week and myself.