Why don't women like Mama's Boys?

[Rasmalaii]

@redvelvet

Paindu Ji…you couldn’t have picked a more fitting name.

Yes, it’s possible that a mother-in-law is giving sound advice based on extensive experience. I never said that all MILS are toxic. But an intelligent person…takes a few moments out to contemplate the advice given by others.

Before you get defensive…keep in mind that as much as we love our parents…there have been times when we question their beliefs and decisions. It’s human nature. If it is natural for one to question the views of their own parents…then it shouldn’t be such a shock to see a DIL who is not blindly obedient to her MIL at all times.

There’s no gunnah in taking some time out to reflect upon what another person is suggesting. For example, there have been some threads where girls have posted that their MILS don’t allow them to visit their own parents. In such situations the son…instead of rushing to agree with his mom…should contemplate the situation:

Is my mom forbidding wife to visit her parents because there is some environmental danger (weather issues, safety issues)?

Is there an emergency in my wife’s family? Does my mom have an emergency that she needs my wife to tend to? Has my wife been neglecting her marital responsibilities with excessive visits to her parents?

Is this a frequent restriction imposed by mommy? Is my mommy’s decision reasonable from a moral/human/Islamic perspective? Is it fair or reasonable? How would I feel in such a situation?

IF we can think from various angles when it comes to other issues…why not when it comes to our own families? That doesn’t mean that the Momma’s Boy has to be rude and lash out at his mom. But BLIND OBEDIENCE is neither natural nor wise. Keep in mind, that even some of the prophets (Ibrahim AS) went against their parents…in order to find the right path.

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btw is ur nick after the delicious red velvet cake? yum!