A general question:
Why don’t most of men remain the same as a marriage/relationship proceeds with time, as they are in the beginning?Why don’t they remain as loving like they are in the beginning?
As it’s apparent from most of ladies’ complaints, why does their interest tend to decline?
So men, what are the reasons?
Ladies, feel free to put in your thoughts.
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Aik he Shakal roz roz dekh k bor hujaty haina is lia :)
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The question is do women? And the obvious answer is no.
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The question is do women? And the obvious answer is no.
Yes, women do! We women actually tend to become more loving and caring with time. But why not you men?
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Right.
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Yes, women do! We women actually tend to become more loving and caring with time. But why not you men?
errr.....do we?
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errr.....do we?
Yes we do, dont you ?
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Yes we do, dont you ?
No. I'm the same as day one.
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I like the innocence of the question 
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errr.....do we?
Atleast we don't change like most of men!
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And how do they change?
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Tond nikal aati hai…sar ganja ho jata hai…and he doesn’t have time/energy to be circling around his wife…may be…
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been married for nearly a decade now but my husband doesn’t have a tond…in fact, he’s fitter than ever.
he’s not ganja either…a bit of hair loss but no tind.
about circling around? he never did that even in the beginning so why would he do it now?
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you are a lucky woman…but i was just taking a guess about what OP might have in mind
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A general question:
Why don't most of men remain the same as a marriage/relationship proceeds with time, as they are in the beginning?Why don't they remain as loving like they are in the beginning? As it's apparent from most of ladies' complaints, why does their interest tend to decline?
So men, what are the reasons?
Ladies, feel free to put in your thoughts.
Sookhe Hoontoon sey hoti hain meethi baatain....
Pyaaas jab bujh jai to lahje badal jatay hain.
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Yes, women do! We women actually tend to become more loving and caring with time. But why not you men?
1st year of marriage - phone at my work desk rings at 4pm, its my lovely wife on the other side
'Jaldi sai ghar aa jaeen, aap ki pasand k dinner banaya hai'
me ' liken tum ko tu bukhar tha'
she ' tu kia howa, mujhey khud pata chal jata hai aap ka kia khaney ka dil ker raha hai. aab main kia aap k leyee itna bhi nahi ker sakti? itni mehnat kertey hain aap office main '
2rd year of marriage - phone at my work desk rings at 4pm, its my lovely wife on the other side
'ghar kab aa rahey hain, bare bhook lagh rahi hai. sabzi baniee hai. I know aap ko pasand nahi liken aap ki wajah sai main keyun sabzi khana choroon'
me ' liken....'
she 'hangs up'
3rd year of marriage - phone at my work desk rings at 4pm, its my lovely wife on the other side
'ghar aatey howey pizza lai aayee ga' and hangs up.
Re: Why don't most of men remain the same...
A general question:
Why don't most of men remain the same as a marriage/relationship proceeds with time, as they are in the beginning?Why don't they remain as loving like they are in the beginning? As it's apparent from most of ladies' complaints, why does their interest tend to decline?
So men, what are the reasons?
Ladies, feel free to put in your thoughts.
i think the men's better halves are equally at fault too..they tend to change too and this leads to the men changing ..and it's a viscious cycle
IMO the tolerance level of a woman declines with time ...her expectations become higher ..and when the melodrama increases and the ever increasing intensity of 'shadi se pehle to aap aise thay ..ab ap .....' makes men look for what they always want to do ..AVOID and find the easy escape out :p
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A general question:
Why don't most of men remain the same as a marriage/relationship proceeds with time, as they are in the beginning?Why don't they remain as loving like they are in the beginning? As it's apparent from most of ladies' complaints, why does their interest tend to decline?
So men, what are the reasons?
Ladies, feel free to put in your thoughts.
agreed with every bit of your post, now deal with it.
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Why don't most of men remain the same as a marriage/relationship proceeds with time, as they are in the beginning?Why don't they remain as loving like they are in the beginning?
Men and women both change during their lives due to increased responsibilities, change of priorities, and also level of commitment.
In the beginning of marriage, women are focused on their husband. Yet once a baby is born, that baby becomes her #1 priority. Why? B/C she's a mother now and has more responsibilities....her priorities have shifted. I know many women who went to the gym regularly, also dressed up etc. before/early stages of marraige.....yet after a while...they stop doing all that.
During dating, most guys are young and somewhat carefree. Its the intial phase where they're trying to "win" the girl. Right after marriage, he knows he "has" her. The relationship is sealed. Now he's responsible for a wife. His stress level is higher. As we all know....marriage also brings additions drama/headaches of dealing with in-laws (on both sides), and new "issues" that the man didn't have to deal with before.
And then there's baby. After baby, now the man is more responsibilities. Woman is a mother who's probably focused more on the baby that her husband. Man is more focused on providing a good life for the baby. The relationship is (or should be!) stable and man doesn't feel the need to constantly re-assure the wife that he loves her. (and of course, there's the added stress of dealing with a baby and all the new drama that brings related to the extended family!).