i read somewhere that only 10% to 15% of the muslim male population is practicing polygamy.
if i was a man i would use that right Allah gave me, why not 
i would have atleast 2 spouses, some of those middle eastern girls are so beautiful :hinna: 
it might be dumb question but i waant ta know
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its not a right, its a responsibilty. Too much of responsibilty that is. You think life is all about sex. Think of the future, think of a 75 years old man with Four 65 years wives and 10 grownup kids. Yes he probably had fun when we was young but just imagine his situation at the older age.
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its not a right, its a responsibilty. Too much of responsibilty that is. You think life is all about sex. Think of the future, think of a 75 years old man with Four 65 years wives and 10 grownup kids. Yes he probably had fun when we was young but just imagine his situation at the older age.
^ agreeeeed! a huge responsibility...its not about getting off with 4 women at the same time!
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most guys don't use it because the condition of marrying multiple wives is that you deal JUSTLY with each and every one of them.
Guys have a hard enough time dealing with one women. How are they gonna handle more than one and be fair with all of them?
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You know the funny thing is, i think this is second thread like this started by a female. (Don't have a time to search another one). Anyhow, i think polygamy is man's right, however i think if God gave us that right then also we should be able to fulfill all it's responsibilities. For instance, if you have sex with one then you gotta have sex with another second day. And i gave this example because the dynamics of having two wives fits in this situation . I mean no woman want her man to touch another let alone have sex with her. AND... even lets say man have two women...one of them will conspire to eliminate another OR they both conspire and leave that man or one of them leave this man. Now choose fellas!. Relationships are tough to deal with. Especially women and their dramas.
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No rights comes without responsibilities.
In this case responsibilities are too much for most of the men to take on. In fact even most of those 10%-15% (as per your stats) men does not fulfill their responsibilities properly.
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For instance, if you have sex with one then you gotta have sex with another second day.
and I thought we are only sharing the negative side of polygamy
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It's not a right, its a privileged. Given to men by Allah (SWT) with some very strict conditions. If a man decides to exercise this privilege than he is accountable for:
And remember we humans are worst in being fair to others. So it is a hefty agreement between the man and Allah if man chooses to exercise this.
Re: Why don't most all Muslim Men use their god given right of Polygamy?
It's not a right, its a privileged. Given to men by Allah (SWT) with some very strict conditions. If a man decides to exercise this privilege than he is accountable for:
And remember we humans are worst in being fair to others. So it is a hefty agreement between the man and Allah if man chooses to exercise this.
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Allah did not sanction this "right" on men to fulfill a horny toad's sexual appetite. It is actually for the protection of women who would otherwise be left with no one to care for them (i.e. widows or orphans). It is not for a man to marry any beautiful girl he sees, cause he cant keep it in his pants! Marriage is not all about sex and nothing else. There is a great responsibility that comes with marrying one woman, and even greater responsibility with marrying 2, or 3, or 4.
Imagine one wife wants a Chanel Purse, if he buys it for her, he will have to buy one for all the other wives as well! Do you think a man has the money lying around to manage more than one household (doing it equally), paying all the bills, paying for all the children that have come out of those relationships, and getting each wife a Chanel purse? I think not!
Most Muslim men dont practice plygamy because they know they cannot fulfil their obligations. Im pretty sure all the guys on here who are married will attest to how hard it is to keep one wife happy, and all her needs fulfilled!
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I am doctor by profession and can afford to get married twice. So lets say i marry a woman here in North America and want to marry another for sake of helping her financially because she is widow or divorced. Even then women will find their man having two wives big problem. What i am saying is, no matter what you do, the engagement with two wives cannot work nowadays.
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it is so difficult to handle one , you are talking about 2 ,3,4 
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Since when did you have to be married to help a widow/divorced woman? 
I know one man who financially supports/gives money to other women without having to marry them or anything.
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i see it as if one spouse isn't doing the duties of a good spouse i can always go to the second one and enjoy life. there must have been a reason why allah made that option available.
as far as i know all a man has to do is give out equal amounts of assets to the spouses but where does it say anything about the fact that a woman has to be handicapped or in need and that's the only way that a man can have a second wife.
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as far as i know all a man has to do is give out equal amounts of assets to the spouses but where does it say anything about the fact that a woman has to be handicapped or in need and that's the only way that a man can have a second wife.
yes for most of the part its a myth. A woman does not have be in any specific need to become someone's second wife. Second wife comes under same conditions as first wife. Do you marry first wife only if she is poor, widow, handicap or orphan, no - right? Same is with 2nd or 3rd wife.
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its not a right, its a responsibilty. Too much of responsibilty that is. You think life is all about sex. Think of the future, think of a 75 years old man with Four 65 years wives and 10 grownup kids. Yes he probably had fun when we was young but just imagine his situation at the older age.
Spot on mister!
I am doctor by profession and can afford to get married twice. So lets say i marry a woman here in North America and want to marry another for sake of helping her financially because she is widow or divorced. Even then women will find their man having two wives big problem. What i am saying is, no matter what you do, the engagement with two wives cannot work nowadays.
Hassan, while you may be right that two women will never get along under the same roof especially when they're sharing man; I have to say that its not just about finances.
You're not just providing for them and their children...you're also dividing your love, time, affection, wealth, etc. If you had 4 wives, you would need 5 homes, because after spending one day/night with each wife you would have only 3 days left in the week. If you spent one extra day/night with any one wife, do you think the other three would let you live?
It aint as easy as it seems. We may be catty but men have a hard time managing one woman...forget 4.
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its not natural for a woman to share her husband hence most women don't tolerate that and cause drama which is understandable. most desi women I know will never allow their husbands to have a second wife or they will get divorced. the only ppl who keep multiple wives happy are the super filthy rich arabs who give millions for mehr and properties and all that stuff to their wives. hell i wouldnt complain either if i were married to a polygamous man who was able to provide me with such a lavish lifestyle and my own palace! but why would anyone woman share her husband if he is not filthy rich? what is she getting out of him taht she should tolerate him sleeping with other women?
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hell i wouldnt complain either if i were married to a polygamous man who was able to provide me with such a lavish lifestyle and my own palace!
you make it sound like that women dont have any physical needs and they marry only for security. I refuse to believe that. I think that normal women also have similar sexual appetite as any normal man out there.
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I am doctor by profession and can afford to get married twice. So lets say i marry a woman here in North America and want to marry another for sake of helping her financially because she is widow or divorced. Even then women will find their man having two wives big problem. What i am saying is, no matter what you do, the engagement with two wives cannot work nowadays.
Even doctors dont make that much to be able to afford 2 wives. my husband is a doctor and there is no way he can afford to have another wife at all. how is he supposed to pay 2 seperate mortages?? u are not suggesting both wives live in the same house are u? and its not just basic necessities, obivously husbands have to buy jewelery and gifts for their wives aswell. do u know how expensive gold is? if he buys me a gold bracelet, he has to do the same for wife # 2. he wil prolly go broke in a few months if he has to support another wife.
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you make it sound like that women dont have any physical needs and they marry only for security. I refuse to believe that. I think that normal women also have similar sexual appetite as any normal man out there.
women who marry polygamous men usually marry them for financial security or desperation. How many beautiful well off women marry average men who are going to keep multiple wives?? I dont know any neither have I heard of such cases. meanwhile ive seen plenty of poor and desperate women agreeing to become 2nd wives simply coz they need financial security.
even gorgeous women will probably willingly marry a filthy rich polygamous man or a much older man. we see it all the time. Dont u see all these filthy rich really old 60+ men marrying young pretty women? do u think those women are NOT marrying them for financial securty? now a saudi version of donald trump would probably marry multiple gorgous hot women. its a win win situation to be honest.
and yeah obviously women have sexual needs too but no one marries just for sex.. alteast not most ppl.