Re: Why Doesn't My Husband Make Efforts to be Romantic??
^maybe he doesnt like to be told all the time?
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The most valuable gift a man can bestow upon a woman is whats in his pants.
Be thankful to him every time he blesses you with it.
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My husband allhamdoulillah loves me ALOT (sometimes its a bit scary haha) but he has never bought be chocolates or flowers or sung me songs or written me poems. But he never lets me carry heavy shopping bags, he sits on my feet when they are cold, he brings me a glass of water during dinner and lots more, now thats romance <3
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You say u know he loves you but how do you know?? Make a list of the things he does to make you think he loves you and see if that list is longer than what he doesn't do for you. If the list is not very long then sorry mate but he doesn't love you. Just cus he goes out to work and gives you money to survive on does not mean he loves you. Also to those that are telling you to stop expecting Bollywood don't understand cus they not in your situation. Actions speak louder than words in a relationship and you said you are no expecting all that much so what's his problem in doing something small just to make u happy once in a blue moon even, I say. Like I said make a list of good and bad and if good outweigh the bad then you gotta eat your words and just learn to be happy with the way he is. Good luck to ya. x
You are good at giving advice and trying not to make things worse!
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The most valuable gift a man can bestow upon a woman is whats in his pants.
Be thankful to him every time he blesses you with it.
Yes, we get it, you're a man and there's only one thing on your mind, etc. But why don't you at least try and sound somewhat less pervy.
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This is why I asked the op that she says she thinks he loves her so what does he do to make her think he loves her? It is those things that are the small things that she needs to appreciate him for.
Re: Why Doesn't My Husband Make Efforts to be Romantic??
The most valuable gift a man can bestow upon a woman is whats in his pants.
Be thankful to him every time he blesses you with it.
LOL quite blunt.
Re: Why Doesn't My Husband Make Efforts to be Romantic??
My husband allhamdoulillah loves me ALOT (sometimes its a bit scary haha) but he has never bought be chocolates or flowers or sung me songs or written me poems. But he never lets me carry heavy shopping bags, he sits on my feet when they are cold, he brings me a glass of water during dinner and lots more, now thats romance <3
Awww cute! I would prefer these things to the conventional romantic things.
Why Doesn't My Husband Make Efforts to be Romantic??
I'll tell you what's REALLY romantic...when you have 2 kids shouting from different bathrooms "I'm doonnnne.....can yoouuuuuuu waaaash me"...and your husband says "tum behto...main karletahoon"
I'll take that over chocolate, flowers or notes any day
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Re: Why Doesn't My Husband Make Efforts to be Romantic??
The most valuable gift a man can bestow upon a woman is whats in his pants.
Be thankful to him every time he blesses you with it.
Yes, we get it, you're a man and there's only one thing on your mind, etc. But why don't you at least try and sound somewhat less pervy.
He's clearly talking about his credit card. What's so pervy about that? Calm down dude.
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this :k:
Re: Why Doesn't My Husband Make Efforts to be Romantic??
The most valuable gift a man can bestow upon a woman is whats in his pants.
Be thankful to him every time he blesses you with it.
LOL!
We have a comedian amongst us.
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This!!! And also taking care of the kiddos, letting you sleep in on weekends 
swoooon
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I sympathize with OP, some men tend to be extremely dry. Considering you've already discussed it with him, and he has not tried to amend himself accordingly to your suggestions, chances are he doesn't seem to care much about romanticism. This is the beginning of your marriage, as years pass by he will get attached and eventually begin sending romantic signals. Just be patient. That does not mean you have to stop doing your part. Remember, you have to make up for what he lacks and vice versa. You can't entirely give up and hope for him to spontaneously change one day. Keep doing your part, as if you're teaching him. Keep calling whenever he's at work, leave special lovey dovey notes in his pocket, order flowers, dress up for him or whatever your idea of romance may be. Get him used to it so when you stop doing these minor things, he'll notice and return them back. Individual personalities usually blend in after a few years of wedlock. He will adapt to your idea of romance, give it some time. It works.
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He's clearly talking about his credit card. What's so pervy about that? Calm down dude.
Credit cards belong in the wallet. We all know Uzair's frame of mind as well as what he intended for. Don't provide him with useless backup.
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This is called being considerate of another person’s needs, not romance. Romance doesn’t have to be chocolate and flowers (though those hurt) but saying things like you are really very important in my life etc. also count.
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Yes, we get it, you're a man and there's only one thing on your mind, etc. But why don't you at least try and sound somewhat less pervy.
Credit cards belong in the wallet. We all know Uzair's frame of mind as well as what he intended for. Don't provide him with useless backup.
You dont long for your husbands body? His masculinity?
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LMAO.
To you, maybe it’s not romantic. But a lot of husbands are exhausted after a work week in addition to helping out with kids/home with wives. It’s not the act of taking care of the kids…it’s the fact that he considers you before everything else. Even though he’s tired and prob cranky and hungry…he isn’t saying it…but he still thinks of you first…that’s romantic, IMO.
A lot of the things ppl have posted are not conventional romance…bcos again, movies are not real life. Men show their affection differently.