why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

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Seriously..i need some fiance advice.he tells me often in a day he misses me,he want the marriage to be soon.m(but no offence that might just be lust) he keeps saying he’ll do this fir me or that but he doesnt.i bought him three perfumes on eid and he said he’d get me something but he doesnt.he goes to market to buy necessary things.told me now he has a reason to look at things since im in his life and buy them.but nothing.im nice to him abd suoer chill i never make him feel trapped,the other day i got upset over something and for first time i started crying,the next day he didnt seem to care said i thought something happened to ur voice,he never seemed much concerned.is he taking me fir granted? (Ghar ki murghi daal barabar)can all his words be acting?he works in a nearby city and ive asked him to visit on weekends many times,but he just doesnt,but he says all i have to do is tell him come now and he’ll come,he doesnt even let me speak on phone,just talks himself and repeatedly cuts my words,on engagement he didnt even say i looked good,later i realised by somethin he said that what he was happy about was being the centre of attention.he uses my shoulder to cry on and tells me his problems,and often gets upset if i seem busy.can all this be acting because actions speak louder than words.

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Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

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I think this shud b in life n relationships forum :hmmm:

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Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

No one replies there… can u help me?

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Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

Im moving your thread to the appropriate forum

And with something as important and serious as potentially breaking your engagement, wouldn't it be better to talk to your parents or elders, rather than asking in the cafe forum?

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  1. Mangni hui hai... but dil mein doubt hai
  2. Shadi hogai or ab pashtawa lag gaya ke kash main mangni tor deti...
  3. Shadi nibhane ki bohat koshish ki lekin nahi ho sakta so u r going to file for a divorce....
  4. OMG! Is tention mein aap behosh ho jati hai n guess wat u r PREGNANT
  5. No divorce, he will change after the birth of your baby
  6. Baby hogaya he still hasnt change

Time flies away

  1. Ab bache ki wajjah se bardasht karo uska... haye kash pehle faisla kiya hota

.... one more kid ....larte bhi jana hai or bache bhi paida karte jane hai.... few more kids

  1. Bache mentally disturbed hai kyun ke unke maa baap ki banti nahi or is wajjah se ghar ka mahol khuch khas acha nahi
  2. Bacho ki personality pe bohat fark hai is cheez ka
  3. Umar ke is hisse mein tum sirf or sirf bacho ke liye jeete ho or unhi ke liye unke baap ko bardasht kar rahi ho....
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Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

And there is another thread by OP

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/628681-does-playing-hard-to-get-works.html

Why not merge them?

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  1. Mangni hui hai but u re confused
  2. Shadi hoti hai n u r sooo happy 3.KIDS.... he is a gud dad
  3. PERFECT FAMILY
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Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

I read your other post where you mentioned that you were playing "hard to get." It's possible that your playing "hard to get" might have put him off a bit and is making him behave this way. I think you should talk to him directly about what has been going on and find out the reason behind it from him before you make any major decisions, such as calling off your engagement.

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eww he sounds like a little girl!!! :bummer:

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why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

He seems self absorbed ...

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No worries, none taken

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I just wanted some hwlp first...

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Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help

Help *

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Oh my God,aisey hota hai shadi main??agar insan ek do saal tak bachey paida na karey khali know him better...i dont know...i need help..

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Thanks for helping me out.i think i'll talk to him..

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The best advice to offer is that which one would adhere to themselves.Aghr hum hote is situation me.I would perform salaatul Istikhaara.Inshallah apka masla ache andaaz me hal ho jaye ga

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Don't you have any siblings you can talk to? Even cousins or friends who knw your family and life halaat. I'm pretty sure they would be in a better position to give you advice rather than people who knw nothing about you. I say this because this decision of yours will have an impact on the all of his family and yours too. Speak to whoever your most close to in the family about your fears and ask them to help you to get him to sit down with you and be straight up about his intentions and what he wants for his future and same time you tell him what you want and then decide if actually you can or cannot give to the relationship what the other wants otherwise it probably is better to break it off but not before having a serious talk first.

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OP, frankly, you don't sound OLD enough to get married, you sound immature and naive. You really ought to talk to your family because part of your issues seem to stem from unrealistic Bollywood expectations of married/engaged life and part of them seem to be that you don't know the first thing about mature relationships. Go talk to ammi and abbu.

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Even though you shouldn't be breaking off an engagement because of his lack of visits and gifts, I'm still concerned about the other personality traits you mentioned. The lying and attention seeking are a cause for worry.

You need to delay the wedding for sure. Both of you seem young, or if you're not young then you both are at least immature. Don't be bullied into getting married soon because you both need more time. Talk to your elders because this is a life changing decision.

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i dont know what to say…this is my life…please dont laugh over it…