Re: why doesnt anybody answer me?i want to break my engagement help
I’m bored, and don’t really choose to read the other thread correlated to this poster, but i realize the responses haven’t been positive. I do realize this new generation of pakistani girls, (not all, but a substantial amount are unrealistically emotional). That being said… here we go!
*1) **Seriously..i need some fiance advice.he tells me often in a day he misses me,he want the marriage to be soon.m(but no offence that might just be lust) he keeps saying he’ll do this fir me or that but he doesnt.
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Okay, I don’t know many people that marry for lust (is purely physical attraction and has no lasting effect) Don’t get me wrong, men do have “trophy wives”, and what not. I also don’t know what you look like, but I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt. That you are average, to maybe a point above average on a scale of 10. So if 5-6 is Avg… then 7 is a little above average, where 8 is pretty damn hot, and 9-10 are model and actress level hot. It’s probably not lust at this point… lust can keep a relationship going, but lust burns out pretty quick. Usually, after the person achieves intimate gratification.
Now, saying he will do this, and that, and doesn’t “come through” - He is not very reliable nor accountable. If he keeps letting you down via commitments, then either you have to accept this and live with this (he will probably keep doing this, quite possibly for the rest of his life / throughout your relationship).
- i bought him three perfumes on eid and he said he’d get me something but he doesnt.he goes to market to buy necessary things.told me now he has a reason to look at things since im in his life and buy them.but nothing.im nice to him abd suoer chill i never make him feel trapped,the other day i got upset over something and for first time i started crying,the next day he didnt seem to care said i thought something happened to ur voice,he never seemed much concerned.is he taking me fir granted?
Its sad, that he won’t spoil you (not even slightly). You are his fiance…right? He wants to marry you right? He tells you he will buy you gifts, but he does not? HELLO? WAKE UP!!! lol…this is a RED FLAG. You would have to be an idiot to miss this one. It’s not so much what he buys you, as much it’s the gesture, or the effort. Words are WIND, its all about the action…and action speaks louder than words.
- he works in a nearby city and ive asked him to visit on weekends many times,but he just doesnt,but he says all i have to do is tell him come now and he’ll come,he doesnt even let me speak on phone,just talks himself and repeatedly cuts my words.
Like I said, words are wind. Action speaks louder…and he’s all talk, and 98% inaction. A guy that doesn’t let a girl talk on the phone? Am I missing something here? It’s usually the girl that gets to do majority of the talking, not the guy. If he’s cutting you off, and the conversations are perpetuated by him, then he doesn’t really care what you have to say or think — It’s all about him. AKA. He’s selfish, self-centered, and using you…quite possibly because of convenience and the fact you are his fiance.
- on engagement he didnt even say i looked good,later i realised by somethin he said that what he was happy about was being the centre of attention.
I think a guy should always compliment a woman: (a) only if he means it, b) you should know to throw random compliments here and there . c) if your girl spent time getting ready and you notice it (say something) d) when your girl is having a bad day, say it to cheer her up, common, don’t be stupid. Now the fact that its your engagement, and he’s not saying you look beautiful? This is the second or third most important day of your life, and he can’t say you look beautiful? Jesus 
Do i need to go on?
- he uses my shoulder to cry on and tells me his problems,and often gets upset if i seem busy.can all this be acting because actions speak louder than words.
**Okay, so he projects his issues and problems on you, but won’t let you project to him, nor support you when you are upset, sad or down. He doesn’t buy you gifts, doesn’t come out to see you, and does NOT compliment his future wife to be…
**This isn’t about maturity any longer.. this is about common sense. What i’m trying to say is, if the bum riding a donkey tells you he’s a knight, but really he’s just a beggar, don’t believe what you hear — but what you actually SEE.
Just my 5 cents.
