Re: Why do women want men to be Chivalrous?
Valid points, except the most obvious reason is that James Cameron knew what he was doing and wanted to make all the women cry. The movie had a much bigger impact because women get emotionally attached to fake characters (cough Twilight) and Cameron took advantage of that. It’s the same reason Transformers can have a relatively crap story and guys will still watch it.
Yeah but women can ask for guys to be chivalrous but if you ask some women to make you a sandwich, they go ape-**** on you, calling you sexist and stuff. I agree with you, it’s just doing nice things for each and and I would prefer to do things like that for my wife or girlfriend, and I would appreciate her doing the same. But that would be my wife or girlfriend.
IMO, manners and chivalry are not the same. Manners go both ways. Chivalry is mens’ actions towards women, which as you may have noticed, is one sided. And if women want equal rights, then they are going to get all that goes with it, including the responsibility and the discourtesy a lot of guys have for each other.
This is kind of off topic, but it reminds of the a psych article about harassment in the work place. Women complain that men treat them differently and the work place is hostile but the reality is, the fact that men were harassing the women is them treating women equally. Women are fake nice to each other and rarely openly criticize each other. Men on the other hand, ridicule each other, often mercilessly, and any guy who’s familiar with locker room talk knows this. It’s how guys try to one up each other. So men treat women equally, and women complain.
Now, you can say that men shouldn’t be doing that in the first place but that’s not how guys are built. We compete for women, for status, and for dominance and women expecting us to raise our standards is like when women expect men to be as clean as them, probably not going to happen.
And that ladies and gentlemen, concludes my rant.