Why do we have to live with inlaws?

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Re: Why do we have to live with inlaws?

@Deeba1234

Why does it have to come down to extremes?? Many ppl I know who left home after marriage live within 10-15 minutes of their parents and pop in to see them all the time. Not living at home doesn’t have to mean parents being sent to a nursing home or left neglected.

Btw when Islam is brought into the equation it’s usually to correct those posters who make out it’s a religious obligation and somehow preferred for the son to stay living in his parents’ home his whole life with his wife when it’s not (unless there’s a real need). Most of us who’d prefer to live seperate do so because it’s just less hassle all round.

I know Deeba what you are talking about. I just said this because I want to make nadz realise that in her situation she can’t do much. At times one has to live with their in laws because of either of these reasons of their frail health or them being alone. In her case, her husband is jobless at the moment. She’s pregnant with her second kid. She shouldn’t be talking about this. And a person realises best when they themselves get into the situation of being left out. Something all of us have to come across yet.

My grandmother no matter how much she encouraged her sons to move on their own felt really lonely and scared after Daada’s death. Thankfully my dad never budged and we lived together with her. Infact my chacha’s family lived with us too for a long. And when she had stroke she fainted in her room. Imagine even if we had been living about 5 minutes away from her, we probably wouldn’t have known she was unconscious or was in this bad a condition. Say she had full time servants too…they are not around all the time and servants/maids never actually care to be around them all the time…infact they try to stay away because being around them would mean continuous chores.

It isn’t easy I know ..but it’s always better to find a middle ground and be happy with what one has !