Re: Why do we have to live with inlaws?
I am a guy and you know one of the most ironic thing is that my parents are very traditional. In particular my dad..he is very very traditional type. So apparently his idea was follows:
-His Son (me) get married and then live in one big joint family. In addition to this, i hand-out all my money to him so he could take out money according to his wish. And with that, he would have control in the house and do what he says. Otherwise it was highway.
Well turn out, i strickly told my dad as my younger brother did. "We love you and respect you, however, we won’t be living in the same house because we find it unfair to a girl to not have her own place. Secondly, I will help you financially and take care of you with everything and i will not hand you my full pay-check. My dad didn’t like it and i ended up moving out since i am 28 anyway. (I was living independently even before that as well). Which is to say, Alhamdullilah i help my parents out as well and so as my brother.
Kehnai ka maqsad hai keh no matter how much we love our parents they should understand us. Now, if i was living like in your husband’s case with mother and sister only then obviously i am not going to leave my mom and sis. However, i would definately make it clear about any mis-adventour from my mom, or sister. The fine line is to keep it balanced as much tough and hard it is.
P.S>. I despise our culture and especially traditional thinking!