Re: Why do us women have to do all the cooking?
suru ka dinon mai tora mushqat ker loo ...ap ki apni hi zindage ban jie ge ;)
Re: Why do us women have to do all the cooking?
answer is in the question!!
Because you are a woman 
hey guys, thanks
i guess im just so nervous about the marriage and everything, and am im so stressed. i keep stressing and ive never met anyone else this stressed before their wedding and so small things like even making him a boiled egg is getting to me. i love cooking, i never question why i am making rice or anything for my mum and dad, so i dnt know what makes me question it from him. i guess im so independent and i love doing my own stuff that when someone else comes into my lfie im now epxpected to be almost responsible for him as i would with a child. thats the part i find annoying.
i did speak to him, hes chilled and not a dragon i painted him out to be. but even then he would expect me to cook for him and stuff, and i do like cooking. i guess i jsut dnt like being told. or having no options. maybe marriage is freaking me out or maybe im too independent. i dnt know really :{
They call it having cold feet before wedding. It is absolutely normal what you are going through. You will get over it. Hang in there.
Re: Why do us women have to do all the cooking?
answer is in the question!!
Because you are woman
n he is men 
Re: Why do us women have to do all the cooking?
dont know what you talking about hmmm
hey guys, thanks
i guess im just so nervous about the marriage and everything, and am im so stressed. i keep stressing and ive never met anyone else this stressed before their wedding and so small things like even making him a boiled egg is getting to me. i love cooking, i never question why i am making rice or anything for my mum and dad, so i dnt know what makes me question it from him. i guess im so independent and i love doing my own stuff that when someone else comes into my lfie im now epxpected to be almost responsible for him as i would with a child. thats the part i find annoying.
i did speak to him, hes chilled and not a dragon i painted him out to be. but even then he would expect me to cook for him and stuff, and i do like cooking. i guess i jsut dnt like being told. or having no options. maybe marriage is freaking me out or maybe im too independent. i dnt know really :{
it is a real change, no matter how cool your spouse is being responsible for someone else in any way is an adjustment. guys deal with it too especially those who have lived on their own and just can go do whatever at whatever hours, pack up and go away for the weekend at the drop of a hat. Even if one's significant other is totally okay, one feels that they ought to tell the spouse, or get their input or do something that interests both and not just one.
It passes quickly though, you get used to each other, have a certain flow and rythm to life and it stops being a huge factor. It does take some effort though.
I had lived on my own for over a decade so just thinking about having someone around and having diff views about life and living space etc seemed like a big change, but we adapted very quickly. So will you, dont be too worried.
Re: Why do us women have to do all the cooking?
IA you'll be fine...dont worry about it, go with the flow you will be pleasanttly surprised how relaxed you feel once you are married, this is where your hubbys love for you will keep you going on a day to day basis and everything will feel right....you will adapt very quickly IA, just dont stress about it, make Dua
nadz...i am surprised at ur thinking bcz whatever u r going thru..i didnt ever give it a single thought at my time that how wud i cook and what wud i cook...and wud i have to do this this and this..putting things infront of him and all that...didnt ever think about it...but u know? things get settled themselves once u r together...at in laws i didnt have to do any cooking and after leaving pak when we stayed together then i found what the hell it is...cook and do all household chores...how come? dat was the age ...but my hubby was so helpful at that time and he still is getting more mashallah...distributing work ...washing dishes,cleaning and i cook..he manages the baby at weekends and gives me a break.. While i am busy with someother thing,he is always ready to do another thing...he never cooked anything...i know he can't and he won't but still helps me ...u really need sometime to adjust with each other and once u do things go on smoothly...i just came to know that u have to go to pak...then honey why r u worried? if its joint family...believe me u dont have to play much role in this regard...(cooking and putting things infront and household chores)...
enjoy this time...rather getting panic all over...u gonna msis this time after marriage indeed...
okay naddz here’s a tasaleee for you - you see men do help out!!! 
German woman divorces husband for cleaning too much
REUTERS
A German woman has divorced her husband because she was fed up with him cleaning all the
time.
German media reported the wife got through 15 years of marriage putting up with the man’s penchant for doing household chores, tidying up and rearranging the furniture.
But she ran out of patience when he knocked down and rebuilt a wall at their home when it got dirty, Christian Kropp, court judge in the central town of Sondershausen, said on Thursday.
“I’d never had anyone seek a divorce for this,” he said.
the same copy 