Re: Why do us women have to do all the cooking?
Nadz..i dont think this is due to your westernised thinking...im from UK and have studied here and lived here all my life for the past 24 years and I too have a good degree and am working full time...and have never thought that the man should help out and stuff....mashallah my hubby does help out, but if he didnt i wouldnt get annoyed at him....in my parents house my dad used 2 help out more (cleaning)...whereas my mum just stuck to the cooking...every couple is different, every family is different..
dont let westernised thinking be the reason for your soch....speak 2 him politely and explain how you want him and urself 2 manage the house and see what he says....inshallah this will clear up a lot of issues for you...
ur going into a joint family and 2 pakistan and with this thinking its going to be hard 4 u 2 settle, i really hope u take things slowly and inshallah everything works out 4 u..dnt 4get in pakistan most people have nauker so u may end up doing hardly anywork..cooking 4 ur hubby is not really an issue! And as u say, you enjoy it cooking, so why worry? take everything in ur stride...
but compromises are a part of marraige...only if u want it 2 work..good luck!