so are you saying that
a- you dont even know what the expectations are of the guy you are getting married to soon? have not discussed them, and/or are not on the same page when it comes to what your thoughts about lifestyle are? b- you picked some bloke who wants to be king of the castle and not lift a finger to help? why did you pick him? c-you outsourced spouse selection to parents and they dragged him out from somewhere? not very 'western' then is it?
If you read my question as should most people here i didnt say it was my personal experience. im not even married yet for gods sake. i was making a general question, as most men, believe it or not, are this way. This has nothing to do with me on the most personal level, but i know my hbby to be expects me to wash and clean etc more than he will. and i was merely asking as to why men expect.