Why do the bride and groom sit on a stage?

cat-woman · May 31, 2001, 8:40pm

It’s so silly if one thinks about it. I don’t think I’d want to sit on a stage when/if I get married, like some sort of monument for everyone to gaze at.

NYAhmadiX · May 31, 2001, 8:47pm

That is precisely the point Cat. You’ve got to do it. No escaping age-old traditions. What do you think men feel with 2000 Haars (currency bill laden necklaces) hanging down their necks? And a full Sehra. I think, it is a very nice tradition and I would want to do it over and over again, if I had a choice. One can never get enough Salamis.

Anchal · May 31, 2001, 8:49pm

Its fun
lil lil kids come up and say ‘dekho dulhan’
and go ooooo and aaaaaaa over everything

grownups are annoying
aunties are Very annoying

they will come up and start asking
‘yeah sonay ka set susral waloon ka hay yeah maikay waloon ka’

‘acha in main say susrali ka kaun kaun sa zaivar hay’
then they will study the designs on the zaivar and probe and touch you as if to examine every inch of the face and take nuks out
Naak teeri hay, ankh bhengi hay, ek kaan doosray say bara hay and blah blah blah

kangans and sonay ki choorian are examined and counted thoroughly and then asked 'is main say maikay ki kaun si hain aur susral ki kaun si ’

the young aunties are fun
they will wanna know ‘makeup kahan say karwaya’
or ‘mehndi bari achi rang lai hay’

boorhi boorhi aunties will come and give you jhappis and kissies and duaans disregarding that you just spent around a fortune getting your hair and makeup done

all fun till you get extremely bored and annoyed and nudge your dulha sitting next to you and propose getting up and running for the car

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Roman · May 31, 2001, 9:00pm

lil lil kids come up and say 'dekho dulhan'
and go ooooo and aaaaaaa over everything

Anchal sweetie, I think they were just being too sarcastic towards you.

Muzna · May 31, 2001, 9:41pm

yes cats...just grin and bear it....

you'll find that it will create memories to laugh over later on.....

and great things to talk about with your hubby cuz of course you won't know everyone and you'll be wanting to ask him who that annoying aunty was who that nosy person was, etc., etc.

Anchal....apnay is dumm challay ka kuch karo....

cat-woman · May 31, 2001, 10:10pm

Seeing that you guys have good memories of it all, it can't be too bad. I guess all the fuss that is made, is a once in a lifetime thing (even with the irritating and nosy aunties). But I'd just feel sooo concious!!

I just asked my mum and at first she said "tum zameen pe beth jana" hehe but she says it's so that everyone can see the rassams and that in western weddings, they also have a high table, so the bride and groom are clearly visible. Okay fine, maybe I'll put myself on a pedestal once in my life. :)

FYI · June 1, 2001, 5:32am

Wah Catz abhi to tum ne kaha"…I’d want to sit on a stage when/(((((((((((((((((if))))))))))) I get married, like some

sort of monument for everyone to gaze at."

Within 3-4 posts youi decided you INDEED are going to get married .Woh kaise???

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All these marriage hall,StAGE ,BHANGRA GHARVA DANCE ETC ARE NOT TRADITIoNS BUT RECENT ADDITIONS TO MUSLIM WEDDINGS ,SO its not that important anywayze.

See some old movies like Pakeezah,Chaudvin ka chaand ,Mere mehboob,Palki,Niqaah,mere huzoor ,those were the ways of my grand father & grand mothers .

Woh afsaana jise anjaam tak, laana na ho mumkin
Use ek KHoobsoorat moR dekar, chhoRna achha

nia_khan · June 1, 2001, 5:33am

Interesting!!
I almost had an heart attack when i went to a friend’s wedding..and looked down from the stage… oh boy ..lol 300 people staring at me

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for a moment i was just like

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then it was fun lol… went to several seminars and stuff…

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so its good

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cat-woman · June 1, 2001, 2:25pm

FYI, it's still a big "IF" and IF it does happen, zameen pe bethney sey to acha hai na?

khan_sahib · June 1, 2001, 5:01pm

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*FYI, it's still a big "IF" and IF it does happen, zameen pe bethney sey to acha hai na? *
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I don't know about the girls but that's how a guy feel like. It is like an ancient ritual when u want to sacrifice someone and then before sacrifice you give him something to cheer about and give him food waghera waghera. Baqi bakray kay saath kiya hota hai sab behtar jaantay haiN. It has been happening for ages.

Btw, mubarak ho aap zameen par ya stage par kab baiTh rahi haiN?

isloo_ki_anarkali · June 1, 2001, 8:10pm

catty meri jaan..if they dont sit on teh stage..how on earth will you differentiate between the groom and all the yuppies that hang around him...and how would you distinguish the bride from all the others who decide to wear their shadi ka lehnga too? btw..its nerve wrecking sitting up there..everyone noticing everything you do!
ps-ROFL Anchal..that is SOOOOOOO true..esp teh zewar part...tauba kaan kau haath laganay wala icon

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Pilot25 · June 5, 2001, 2:16am

So, what's the bare minimum you need for a marriage? Is it one maulvi, two witnesses (oh and a boy and a girl)?

As FYI said, there are so many new traditions tacked on to a 'muslim' wedding that I'm petrified of getting married. It's not married life, it's just the wedding...

Sometimes I think I should just have a drive-through wedding in Las Vegas. What do you think? Anyone know where I can get a muslim Elvis look-alike maulvi?

mangelo · June 5, 2001, 7:09pm

hey, actually there is some more to the couple sitting together for that long in the reception. It is basically a display of the fact that the couple is together, sort of an announcement; as this is the first time they are together publically.

Nilu · January 12, 2005, 5:18pm