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this has to be in the veri mini dictionary, thanks for sharing. Add mosquito bites in ur dictionary too.
that mentality ur talking bout pops into just about every desan yaar, coz they “assume” they have achieved an impossible scenario.
Its called healthy competition
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When the wifey takes even minimal care, there shouldnt be all that much difference between "before babies" and "after". I don't work out, go to a gym, beauty parlor etc etc. But I also dont sit around eating bonbons while servants or family members take care of my kids and house....I do it all (with the help of Verison saab...that wonderful, beautiful man). The only prob is saggy skin and boobs which can be repaired and improved upon with a good doc! I was wearing my "before pregnancy" jeans within 2 weeks of the birth of each of my 3...It makes all the difference in the world to have a husband who cares. Some of the younger, immature guppies have a bad opinion of my Veri-saab but well thats for another day. (So what if he has fun playing with and baiting ignorant immature villagers lol!) Back to the subject, i've met some really immature desi gals who are bitter with their lot in life - being awife and mother so they eat and eat, tell tall tales about how smart they are, judge others quicker than a jackrabbit in heat etc etc. GROW up. sheesh. If you take even minimal care, your husband will love you all the more for it and maybe you wont be as bitter.
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One sentence & u summed it all up, rock on veri, u have a beautiful wife indeed.
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too many jokes, not enough times. 
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dont make phun of me 
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Its a cultural mind set. Most people from India/Pakistan associate being fuller with being healthy in our culture and its take for granted that women are healtheir/happier after marriage as they gain weight.
Now- Full hips can look great if they dont jiggle, which means that they are toned. Post pregnancy bellies can be brought to good shape by excercise (pop a pillates video at home if the gym intimidates you) and watching what you eat.
And if hubbies encourage their wives to stay in shape which does not mean dieting or stick thin, by lets say walking with them for 1/2 hour each evening or parterning with them at the gym, both can look and feel great- and when you support each other, the respect, love and trust grows.
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I suggest all you men having issues with how desi women look after marriage/child birth should get married to non-desans. It'd make life easier for all of us.
Besides most men eventually start to look hideous after marriage anyway, so why bother working out and staying in good shape. If only men keep themselves in good shape, I'm sure it'd give married women more incentive to take good care of themselves.
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mine is coming to the gym with me 
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Furqan dont ask questions which are a reality u see reality if u do it hurts people, lol it is funny though that desi women not just get wide hips but go fat all over when they get married. Wierd really
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You know ^ thats not entirely true. My hubby's sister is movie-star gorgeous. She had 4 children, the youngest is now 12 the eldest 20. And she is just the most beautiful person, inside and out, she is my heroine. She lives with and takes care of her in-laws, entertains just about daily (and I'm talking lots of guests, not just 2 or 3), she is always happy, always makes the very best food, always looks beautiful. She could really give martha stewart a run for her money.
the thing here is well, she just loves and loves her husband and children and she likes taking care of them all. She does want more, she wants to open and run a pre-school one day but she isnt one of those bitter women who are mourning their "lot in life". Rather, she embraces motherhood and taking care of her family.
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What nice things you have to say about my brothers wife. :D
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Really! I can't believe only a handful of girls in here thought this was too derogatory a remark. And a classic case of confirmation bias. If you think only south-asian women get fat after giving birth, you will only point to chubby south-asian women with babies even when you have a lot of humoungous women from other races right in your face, you will still overlook them and point towards the desans.
I agree with MQ, it's not the south-asian women who have gotten the obesity ratio soaring in the U.S. You just have to clear your mind of biases to see the reality.
And secondly, pregnancy does leave undesired amount of fat behind (generally). Cases like mamaof3 are lucky to be blessed with a good metabolism, which is obviously a rare phenomenon because after the age of 26, metabolism falls at a rate of 2 to 3% per year and people usually don't cut down on food thus leading to weight gain. And getting fat isn't limited to women( though generally women have a higher fat-muscle ratio than men), men develop a lot of ugly lard themselves. So please!
One more reason people get fat after they have kids is, stress! Stress leads to production of a fat trapping hormone which traps fat in the belly and the butt, it's used as energy source at times of stress and when the stress has passed away it deposits the fat around belly and butt for later use.
Not just desans, almost everyone needs to devote some time to physical activity. Be it Pilates, treadmill, walking the dog or whatever.
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That’s the best comment i’ve heard so far. You’re very right but unfortunately I doubt anyone will take it seriously becoz we’re just making excuses for being lardasses 
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Fat or skinny dont matter, who really gives a damn, as long as its ok on ur side, so if my wife ever got fat i would lock her in the gym every day for 1 hour atleast so she has to work out.
hahah
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after the age of 26, metabolism falls at a rate of 2 to 3% per year
oh hell. it happens when you enter college and hit the freshmen 15.
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Come to think of it, I've got an experience to share.
One of our family friends had married this pathan girl who lives in our city (how they heard of her from across the country, I do not know). Now this girl looked like that bollywood heroine..mamta kulkarni (?)...absolutely gorgeous.
So she gets married, moves away, and then a year or two later she and her husband shift back here. We did a dawat for her, and she arrived and guess what??
yep, she had gained a LOT of weight. It was really sad actually. She's still pretty, because she just has those features that still look sweet with plumpy cheeks.
My mother sees her and actually asks if she is pregnant!!! The girl calmly told her no. I guess she gets it all the time.
The interesting part is that after desert, her husband didn't want the rest of his desert, so he gave it to her with "yeh lo jaani".
I'm like :o
All I could sit there and think was "Your wife is dangerously teetering on the edge of athersclerosis and here you are giving her more gulam jamun!"
So, a little while later I asked her if he normally does that. She said he's picky with his food, and she often eats up his leftovers, because he'll leave a lot in his plate, and food shouldn't go to waste.
What a nalaaik husband!
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Yaar kahaN ghalat topic ko chair diya!!!!!!!!!!1