Ok, so all too often, I hear about or see/know of or read on gs that either a girl/boy born and raised in the West (i.e. Canada, United States, England, Australia etc.) have agreed to marry a boy/girl from the East (Pakistan/India etc.). More often than not it is a girl from a Western country marrying a boy from back home. A lot of these marriages are unhappy or end in divorce.
I never understood this to be honest. I am born and raised in Canada and I could never have imagined marrying a guy from Pakistan. The mentality is totally different. There are differences in language, humour, likes/dislikes, culture, way of life, hobbies etc.
Why do people from here continue to marry people from there? It makes so much more sense to marry someone who was born and raised in either the same country or one similar to yours. Not only that…but how do you get attracted to someone from the opposite country in the first place?
And I ask because GS is full of bechari larkis who married some next weirdo from Pakistan who is making their lives a living hell…
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Because the eligible guys here are few and those that exist
married a white girl
married a peurto rican girl
married a cuban girl
married a columbian girl
married a venezuelan gil
married an African American girl
married an arab girl who looks like Kim Kardashian
married a convert who looks like Kim Kardashian
married a girl from Pakistan, because mummy said those girls are better
married a Pakistani girl raised in the west like themselves, except she’s not you
That leaves the leftover guys in America of Pakistani descent, available to very eligible desi women in the US. And they’re a circus. That’s another thread topic.
So women go back to Pakistan to find men, because they think they may end up with better, and if they come here and can’t find jobs, it becomes hard…because they look at their counterpart bling women with their bling diamonds and bling outfits, and all that jazz, and think, man, no one is buying me that stuff…I’M BUYING ME THAT STUFF AND I’M BUYING MY HUSBAND THAT STUFF…
And then the realize, they got the short end of the stick.
And then Pakistani society blames them and poo-poo’s them, and those becharis are just stuck. They can’t find rishtas in the countries they were raised, and then they look somewhere else and still get screwed and are told they should have just stayed single…
Because as a society, that’s what we have done to our Pakistani daughters we are raising in foreign countries. We wanted the pounds and the dollars, we raised our families abroad, and we downgraded the value of the foreign-raised Pakistani girl to peanuts and now we point and laugh at her, while we go back to Pakistan and import brides for our sons, because they deserve hoor paris, those good for nothing monkeys.
Why do people from the West marry people from the East?
I'm born and raised in America and yeah that happens a lot. But I found it weird that my cousins who got married to a guy/girl back home are happier then the ones who got married with a guy/girl from here. Thankfully no one is divorced in my family. I guess it's a bit awkward in the beginning when you marry someone whose totally different in every aspect but it's not as bad as it seems from what I've seen so far :) I personally would never have a problem with it. I'm never in favor of cousin marriages but I've seen a lot of my friends and relatives getting married to their cousins from Pakistan Lol.
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Just chill. It'll happen if and when it's supposed to happen to whomever is meant-to-be. Just pray that the person be the coolness of your eyes in every possible way.
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More strange thing for me is why people born and raised in the west don't marry people from the west. They look for a spouse who should be of same religion, same background or caste etc. This is all against the values of the countries they are born in.
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More strange thing for me is why people born and raised in the west don't marry people from the west. They look for a spouse who should be of same religion, same background or caste etc. This is all against the values of the countries they are born in.
Err no. Those countries support the idea of marrying anyone you want. That includes same religion, same caste, same gender, purple people, people with tails... Atleast in theory.
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Because people living in ‘opposite’ countries are people too? Exactly the same like ‘westerners’. They don’t have an extra pair of arms or legs growing.
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Also believing that you have the first right on local bachelors as regards to marriage and that 'easterners' are taking away that right of you, is the same as blaming immigrants for taking away your jobs, because you feel you have a right to be having that job.
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Has anyone actually considered WHY mothers prefer to marry their sons back home? There is another side to this. I was born and raised abroad and the amount of pakistani Muslim girls I went to uni with who were 1) having boyfriends (multiple) 2) drinking 3) clubbing 4) deceiving their parents "oh ammi I am sleeping over at such and such's place because her parents are in Pakistan to visit family" when really they were out all night is unmentionable!! I am not saying girls from Pakistan are corrupt-free BUT when our mothers here view such behaviour from girls here of course they want to run back home to marry of their sons-it's inevitable. Especially for mothers such as mine (my mom wasn't even a teenager when she moved here) and seeing such behaviour is downright scary. So our mothers somehow view Pakistan society as being what it was 20 years ago when it was all good and fine- times have changed. The difficulty arises though when mothers want their daughters to be married to guys abroad or in the same country as they are and they want girls for their sons from Pakistan for reasons described above. I myself am married to a guy from here but for my brother my parents preference is finding a girl back home (for reasons noted). So basically if mothers are going back home to marry their sons off, the behaviour of some girls here unfortunately reflects negatively on everyone and we have this situation. I'm not saying it's right but I can see why and how it has arisen and to be honest I certainly wouldn't want my brother married to any girl who was engaged in the type of behaviour iv made reference to (not saying that a girl from Pakistan wouldn't do any of those things BUT we are considering what we are exposed to here and can see what is happening and the behaviour of some girls here).
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What univ did you go to? 99% of girls I knew growing up were clean. Worst part about them was the gossip queens but Pakistan has those hens roosting there too
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Here we go again...............
There are good and bad people everywhere in the world, it depends on fate, luck, destiny, compromise and many other things where and who you end up with.
I am a Easterner and married to a Westerner for 10 years mashallah, but when I moved to West I was shocked to see his family's mentality and attitude was more Paksitani than I was, even born and bought up there. They were living in a mini Pakistan of 30+ years ago when they left it . I have serious doubt any women from West would have survived in that household for more than 2 months but it took years of hard work to balance East and West and now everything's fine.
My husband's girl cousins are having similar problems as most of the Life 1 girl posters, the guys in the West are either taken, or are eligible bachelors so either they or their moms want the most beautiful, rich, educated, young girl out of the whole community, or they have baggage, or they are not qualified and a long list.
Now I want to raise my daughters in a way that they will be fine marrying guys from Pakistan if the need arise, I seriously don't want them to reject men bases on humor or hobbies because these are very small things in my opinion.
