No, I think 10 page qaseedas would be more appropriate.
And I never said, that one should or should not accept their fate. I simply gave an example of a reason, DUH!
And should one accept their "fate"? Well, that depends. It's a difficult question to answer. One has to make the effort to do things for themselves in life. If you can't pay the bills because you don't have a job........and at the same time you NEVER make the effort to look for a job........you can't put all the blame on fate for being broke. If you're being pressured for a rishta you're not interested in......and you never open your mouth or do something about it...........then deal with the consequences. ** How much would you blame fate......and how much blame would you place on yourself?** For a woman who is being beaten up by her husband.....and who has the means to find a way to support herself in a halal way.........but she does nothing because she "blames it on fate".......and that "society will be brutal to a divorced woman, therefore I must accept my kismat with a lousy husband." What say of that situation? Should fate just be accepted or should one move their haath pair and do something? "Fate" is a difficult topic to discuss.
Is this "qaseeda" long enough, oh "respectful" and "tactful" Channel Manager Sahib?
RV aunty, i wasn't really addressing your post, i was commenting on the thread opener's post. But now that you have decided to reply to my post, let me just say this. Life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes you have to accept what you have. And instead of living in the past, or the what ifs, for the sake of family, for the sake of your own sanity, one has to accept what fate's given to them, because we are not as insightful as Him to understand what He has planned for us. As long as the other spouse isn't abusive, as long as he/she doesn't create dramas, what is wrong with living with them and then eventually figuring them out and in the end, yes, falling in love with them? I don't exactly know where you're coming up with teh divorced situation or whatever, since clearly I never brought it up. Again, I wil reiterate, I am talking solely about the good spouses. Divorce isn't a solution when there is nothing wrong with the spouse except for the fact that he/she wasn't of your choosing. The reasons for a divorce are a whole different topic on the other hand.
Is that clear enough for ya or should i bold, *italicize *and add unnecessary long ellipses and color coordinate my post, oh wise resident therapist of Life 1? =)