Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
I think tt01 has a point.
Why do parents who have NO intention of allowing their girls to go out to work, or even do voluntary work, insist on their girls doing a degree, esp if:
A - the girl has no interest in completing her education
B - She is going to be married immediately afterwards and become a NON-GOING OUT housewife who cannot step foot out of the door or talk to outsiders without her husbands permission?
I don't understand it. I know people will educate themselves bcos they want to, but some girls I know just do it bcos their parents say so.
Is it a status symbol to have a degree even if there is no likelihood that you will ever make use of it?
Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
Because its very simple. Literacy is a necessary must. You don't need a degree to show you know how to read. But you need to go to school to read. What your question should be is "Why do parents not allow their female children to work after they recieve a decent education."
An education is not directly linked to work. It might have been 200 years ago. But today an education is a fundemental building block of a person's personality and upbringing. To question parents who provided such a basic facility is a frankly a ****ing retarded waste of time. It has nothing to do with working. Its about becoming a rounded person.
Honestly I am confused to why this is even a discussion topic, well the original poster is a troll so that explains part of it.
Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
^ No, I am asking specifically about a DEGREE. I know literacy is a necessary must and totally understand that, but I don't understand why some parents push their children into pursuing a degree when the kids have no interest in completing one, or the parents know that their kids will not have any room in their life for a degree after they get married. Like a husband who will not appreciate it. By saying that I do NOT mean that a woman should get a degree to please her husband, can't really find the words to explain at the mo.
Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
^ Your plane doesn't always crash, but you do carry your life-jackets and other safety equipment. Your degree helps you with better future security, not your parents.
RupayHalwa, a lot of girls that weren't interested in studying or thought they will never want work/a career change their minds after marriage and kids start school. It's a good foundation to build up on later incase they do want to work whether it's just for pleasure or to do something constructive with the extra free time they might have or purely out of need.
Having said that some families do see it as just a status symbol, course a girl with a degree is usually more 'marketable' to potential rishtas than one without. When my Mum was looking around for my brother he liked the look of a girl who worked as a secretary and my Mum said 'no way' purely on that basis..
Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
Did I hear wasting money on education? Wow!!
And I always thought that the money which is spent on education, books and medicines was never a waste!
When you get married and get a daughter, do not educate her and save your money tt.
Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
^ I understand that as well, better than you would expect.
But that isn't what I am confused about. Let me explain the scenario - Middle class family, but VERY fixed views on women in the family. Girls can be educated but must marry as soon as poss, aged 16 - 18. Husbands are their first cousins. Parents and husbands would NEVER allow girls to work. Girls talk only amongst girls or their boy cousins. No one even has any interest in discussing current affairs, just births, deaths and marriages (ok, broad generalisation). Parents or girl have never been heard to entertain the idea of degree being better future security. Girl and parents and husband do not see any place for a girl except in the home.
WHY then, in those circumstances, is the girl educated to a DEGREE standard?
^ I understand that as well, better than you would expect.
But that isn't what I am confused about. Let me explain the scenario - Middle class family, but VERY fixed views on women in the family. Girls can be educated but must marry as soon as poss, aged 16 - 18. Husbands are their first cousins. Parents and husbands would NEVER allow girls to work. Girls talk only amongst girls or their boy cousins. No one even has any interest in discussing current affairs, just births, deaths and marriages (ok, broad generalisation). Parents or girl have never been heard to entertain the idea of degree being better future security. Girl and parents and husband do not see any place for a girl except in the home.
WHY then, in those circumstances, is the girl educated to a DEGREE standard?
Thats actually the view point of majority of people in Pakistan but thank God its changing now, very slowly, but still things are changing. Specially the current economic conditions are actually forcing people to change thier mind set as its really difficult for just one person to support the entire family and thats where the female education/degree plays its part. Plus its not about work only, as some other people said, it makes you broad minded, it makes you aware of so many things going on around you and you dont act dumb when things other than household chores are discussed.
^ I understand that as well, better than you would expect.
But that isn't what I am confused about. Let me explain the scenario - Middle class family, but VERY fixed views on women in the family. Girls can be educated but must marry as soon as poss, aged 16 - 18. Husbands are their first cousins. Parents and husbands would NEVER allow girls to work. Girls talk only amongst girls or their boy cousins. No one even has any interest in discussing current affairs, just births, deaths and marriages (ok, broad generalisation). Parents or girl have never been heard to entertain the idea of degree being better future security. Girl and parents and husband do not see any place for a girl except in the home.
WHY then, in those circumstances, is the girl educated to a DEGREE standard?
Regarding bit in bold I know u said generalisation but do ppl as bad as this actually exist? I would seriously go brain dead if I was part of something like that..
Re: Why do parents in Pakistan waste money on educating their daughters?
Mindless, speaking of short term memory loss - ironic :p
From my point of view, if you have the money to educate a girl to get a degree, you have enough money so that it is not a waste. Basically the opportunity cost is very limited, the money could not be spent at any other location that would be better than a girls education in my point of view.
What's the point in going to university if you're just going to become a housewife once you get married? From what I have seen, a lot of girls in Pakistan who get an education don't work after they get married. Some never work because they get married as soon as they finish school and they basically become housewives.
Is it really worth spending you're parents' money on education if all that you are going to do is cook and clean?
Listen people: I'm not saying that women shouldn't get basic education or they shouldn't have a right to education.
All I'm saying is that it's nor fair for parents to work really hard to make money to spend on higher education for their daughters, if all their daughters are expected to do in life is cook and clean.
It's unfortunate that so many educated women in Pakistan don't enter the work force.
Just think of all the contributions they could make to the country.
Regarding bit in bold I know u said generalisation but do ppl as bad as this actually exist? I would seriously go brain dead if I was part of something like that..
YES, they definitely DO exist, and there are young lady graduates amongst them, with degree's in politics and economics amongst others.
Thats actually the view point of majority of people in Pakistan but thank God its changing now, very slowly, but still things are changing. Specially the current economic conditions are actually forcing people to change thier mind set as its really difficult for just one person to support the entire family and thats where the female education/degree plays its part. Plus its not about work only, as some other people said*, it makes you broad minded, it makes you aware of so many things going on around you and you dont act dumb when things other than household chores are discussed./*QUOTE]
Yeah, you would think that it makes them broadminded. So would I... UNTIL I heard one of these new graduates tell a newly married other girl that bcos she STILL hadn't conceived 4 months into her marriage, there is something wrong with her and she has to take treatment.
Educating a kid is an investment NOT a waste! Grrr
Educating is a good investment, but I have seen girls where I think it IS a waste educating them in FURTHER EDUCATION - bcos they don't seem to benefit from it at all, nothing changes with them.
I don't understand it, how they can go through a university college environment and still remain the same hill-billies that they were.