Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?

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Re: Why do Pakistanii men make the worst husbands?

@Core2

I have seen this general observation of men in Pakistan. They just don’t understand women and take a wife for granted. This isn’t always true but is most of the time.
Where else in the world besides Pakistan is it seen as unmanly to do the housework? To help ur wife around?
And all Pakistani women I know agree on this point.
A few days ago my brother and his family went to a party at his family friend’s house. There were people of several (Muslim) nationalities there and my brother told me when men started discussing their wives, all the Pakistani men started criticizing their wives whereas the Iranians and Turks and even Arabs and Afghans (not pashtuns) were praising their wives.

Why is it like this?
And is it just me or has anyone noticed that when Pakistani men marry goris they treat them way better than how he would have if he was to have married someone from back home? I have seen this behaviour in my ex-husband as well (and before any Pakistani man tries to link my divorce to my attitudes to Pakistani men, I’d just like to say that he had an affair with his white gf b4 he divorced me).

Many points mentioned in your post.

1. Pakistani men (born in their native land or of Pak descent) are the same as any other man, Gora, Hindu, etc etc. Pakistani men have their pros and cons point like any other man. (u did mention , it isn’t always true).

2. Ask an Indian or an Arab woman and she will tell you how their men do not understand them,and the way they are treated is abysmal. Many of my cousins (we are Pak) are married to non Desi women, ie Arab, African. All these women will tell you how the men from their background are the worst and the ideal man is the Pakistani man ( yes, seriously)..In turn my cousins wives sisters are all also married to Pakistani men.

3. I’ve never been to a dinner party or get together where other men, especially Muslim discuss and criticize their wives.Discussing your spouse with others is just so crass and demeaning.