Why do my parents not understand? (marriage)

[_Chochi_Chi_Bachi]

Re: Why do my parents not understand? (marriage)

@The_Last_Straw

And in that hour that you sit with him in the living room, you can either be an ACHIChiPAALIChi ChochiChiBachi and give him the idea you’re so hot for him, or you can choose to be a GANDI* Chi* DHEET* ChiChochiChi *Bachi and put him off. So, what’s it gonna be, Bachi?

You’re not a powerless bakri.

lol i cnt du anyfin bad otherwise my parents wil give me one emotional lecture + they will say ur badnaaaming us and seriously i dont hve the guts to speak to a guy infront of my parents, its like il talk to them but not infront of them but they wont understand uggghhh

@khattichic

For a 20 yr old who is UK born and raised, your english/typing sounds mighty Fobby, no offense, but I’ve seen Pakistani born, raised and educated people on this forum who can communicate better than you, so maybe considering a rishta from Pakistan is not the death sentence you seem to think it is?

No offense meant, just my observations

lol i know my typing is all over the place…i dont mind if he cant find work, but if i get married wer i dont want to go then i know i will mke no effort but if i get married wer im happy then i will make the best of effort…and bak to if he cant find worrk, i can always be a gd partner and stand up with him to open a business and dontworry i dont get offended easily lol…

@The_Last_Straw

You just might find an awesome guy among the rishta candidates. So, you can either try to keep an open mind about them and this will require effort. Or if your’e 100% sure that you can’t do it, then stand firmly behind your decision, even if that means going up against your parents.

If you decide that you don’t want something or that you DO want something and then you’re too afraid fight/stand up for it…that’s a very frustrating, ugly place to be in.

exactly my point and worst is that i only have my parents to talk to but there turning there faces? ive never done anything wrong but now it looks like theyr forcing me to take wrong steps? which i still wouldnt do but i know i wil have alot to head…

@yeswekhan

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Note to self: UK bred girls, not a good idea.

lol

@sadzzz

ive seen many girls, who thought like you at your age, struggle later on in life with finding the right partner.

They let go of great guys just on that basis (back home). Never gave them a go.

Sad, really.

Give them a chance? but its a big decision? everyones different in reaacting to good and bad? ive just been honest and straight to my parents about what i want, do i not deserve that? ive kept there respect, made them proud? its my life, i will live with the man, i know who i will feel comfortablee with but stil they dont want to lisen? is that how parents treat there kids?