Racial discrimination…? There could be many reasons for this behaviour
That particular guy may not like you, (maybe because he considers you’re not releigous enough for him, praying behind men (which is alright I think))
The guy may not be releigous himself, if he greets non-muslim girls and not muslim girls, then he doesnt say alot of salaams, (he wont say salaam to nonmuslims).
Culture, if a guy greets a desi girl, she’ll probably think "Yeh itna free kyu ho raha hai? " but most westren girls would think it normal.
He may not like desi girls. This problem is everywhere. Pakistanis living outside pakistan often think that they dont belong to pakistan but to the country they are living in. They think Pakistan is just “Power-outs, bull**** on roads, and lots of maulvis everywhere.” I know more than one guy that has actually become Anti-Paki. He hates paki food, paki clothes, paki culture and even paki people.
Maybe he also feels ignored? Maybe if you were to say salaam to him, he would reply with wasalaam, and then he would also consider saying it to you next time? Give attention to get attention?
Have you tried saying salam to them?
I have the opposite prob cuz alot of muslim guys say salam to me cuz they know my brother and everyone around me thinks i know all these guys, not good for your rep:o
I wanted to pray in jamaat one day at school and so I asked this muslim guy if he is going to pray. He informs me that a girl cannot pray behind a guy in public in jamaat, as if its a crime to be in public like that. So I am like okkkaaayyy. He said he will confirm this with someone. I asked other muslim students there and they did not agree with this one guy so I ended up praying behind some other ones who were praying at that time.
Now, a few days later I see this same guy hugging a bunch of girls in the library and chilling with them. This guy wont even look at me or say Salam if i pass by him, but he readily says hello to and hugs the non-muslim girls all the time.
Not only that, I have noticed some other muslim guys doing the same thing. They wont even LOOK in my direction or say Salam or even hello, but they will readily do that with the non-muslim girls. I am not saying all the muslim guys are like this, just a few that I have seen. Why not a Salaam? I am not saying you must look at me, but if you are so readily befriending every other non-muslim, whats the problem in saying Salam to me or any of the other muslim girls?
The only time they will look in my direction is if they see me talking to someone and then I get stared at, but the minute I look in their direction, they turn away.
I DONT GET IT!!!
Why are they so free with the non-muslim girls and so reserved and tunnel-visioned when walking by a muslim?
Again, I dont wish to talk behind peoples back in this way, I just want to know what is this about? If I see a muslim I will say hello or nod or say Salam and acknowledge them, just as I do with non-muslims. Especially on campus where theres not many of us.
Do you not look/talk because you feel its okay to fraternize with non-muslim girls, but not okay with muslim girls? Are muslim girls intimidating? Am I just plain horrific to be said hello to? I dont know. afsoos I guess I'd just like to see more unity.
I am no angel myself and I am riddled with issues, but I dont like having to explain to my non-muslim friends why guys are being different with them and with me. I have actually been asked by some of them why the guys arent so friendly with me and are ready to hug them, etc. One girl even told me that after she saw the guy wouldnt give me any hugs (and I sure dont want one), she is not going to let him give her any hugs anymore. She felt its hypocritical. The amount of times I have had to defend these guys (to my roomates for example) behavior is not even funny. Non-muslims are talking bad about them due to their behavior and attitude with girls and here I cant even tell them, and if I do I will probably be labelled. afsoos
I was never like that, Alhamdulillah, so I couldn't say why they do it. If your friends ask you why those guys do such and such thing, my advice would be to just have them ask those guys themselves.
I'm wondering, how do you defend these guys' behavior and attitude to people? How do you explain it to them?
On a more serious note , a lot of so called Muslim guys AND girls do this. Frankly they just need to do some growing up. If I had been in your place I'd have given him a wonderful lecture about hugging girls while not letting you pray .
Well.. my brother told me, once this hijabi girl and a mullah guy were hugging and kissing at corner in the parking building. Everyone passing by was looking at them with a shock. :D
maybe say salaam to them and they will say it back, maybe they dont know you that well thats why they aren't saying salaam, i dont say salaam to random people but if they say it, I reply, as for the hugs, they wanna get sum sorta action from girls and they know they aren't going to get any from muslim girls...yah
I try to acknowledge them if they give me a glance, but they never initiate and dont really say anything when I do try to do that, so its kinda futile. I am just going to ignore them I guess, or ask one of my friends to bring it up in khutbah about greetings. hehe
I don't hug any woman but my ammi ji so I really can't say anything about those kind of guys' actions with muslims and non-muslim ladies. I do shake hands here and there to my white/black/hispanic friends' girlfriends/wives and don't to muslimahs because I have noticed many times even if I take my hand out for a shake, muslimahs usually just nod instead of shaking the hand and I feel really salty about that... That's my story.
" but most westren girls would think it normal.
