Why do muslim guys do this?

[Munni]

I dont wish to speak ill of my fellow muslims, but I’d like some clarity about this phenomenon that I have been observing at school.

I wanted to pray in jamaat one day at school and so I asked this muslim guy if he is going to pray. He informs me that a girl cannot pray behind a guy in public in jamaat, as if its a crime to be in public like that. So I am like okkkaaayyy. He said he will confirm this with someone. I asked other muslim students there and they did not agree with this one guy so I ended up praying behind some other ones who were praying at that time.

Now, a few days later I see this same guy hugging a bunch of girls in the library and chilling with them. This guy wont even look at me or say Salam if i pass by him, but he readily says hello to and hugs the non-muslim girls all the time.

Not only that, I have noticed some other muslim guys doing the same thing. They wont even LOOK in my direction or say Salam or even hello, but they will readily do that with the non-muslim girls. I am not saying all the muslim guys are like this, just a few that I have seen. Why not a Salaam? I am not saying you must look at me, but if you are so readily befriending every other non-muslim, whats the problem in saying Salam to me or any of the other muslim girls?

The only time they will look in my direction is if they see me talking to someone and then I get stared at, but the minute I look in their direction, they turn away.

I DONT GET IT!!!

Why are they so free with the non-muslim girls and so reserved and tunnel-visioned when walking by a muslim?

Again, I dont wish to talk behind peoples back in this way, I just want to know what is this about? If I see a muslim I will say hello or nod or say Salam and acknowledge them, just as I do with non-muslims. Especially on campus where theres not many of us.

Do you not look/talk because you feel its okay to fraternize with non-muslim girls, but not okay with muslim girls? Are muslim girls intimidating? Am I just plain horrific to be said hello to? I dont know. afsoos I guess I’d just like to see more unity.

I am no angel myself and I am riddled with issues, but I dont like having to explain to my non-muslim friends why guys are being different with them and with me. I have actually been asked by some of them why the guys arent so friendly with me and are ready to hug them, etc. One girl even told me that after she saw the guy wouldnt give me any hugs (and I sure dont want one), she is not going to let him give her any hugs anymore. She felt its hypocritical. The amount of times I have had to defend these guys (to my roomates for example) behavior is not even funny. Non-muslims are talking bad about them due to their behavior and attitude with girls and here I cant even tell them, and if I do I will probably be labelled. afsoos

[fghd]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!

same issue in every undergrad or any MSA

Daayyuummm I got the bad name among muslim dudes in my school b/c I ACTUALLY brought up a meeting and this issue infront of them! The answer I got from them was they r giving da’wa :halo:

But on a serious note, they told and explained me that they give us respect that way and y not say salam? Well sista, there is no explaination for that kind a gesture b/c it seems like eveyrone does it.

Its ok ull get used to it

[Sadiyah]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

Munni, next time someone tells you that you can't pray behind men, tell'em to provide you with evidence (which they will not be able to), else lid it.

Given that he was rude to you, you should've gone up to him the day he was hugging girls and should've asked him how acceptable that is.

[Man_with_a_Plan]

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Hi Munni

Wanna hug

[Sara516]

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[LuxuryItem]

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Moooooneeeeeeee…I want to give you a hug.

Or, you can give me a hug, I don’t mind.

It’s my lifelong fantasy to be chummy with a hijaban, you know sacred cows and all.

[Munni]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

For the guys responding in this post, pleaseeeeee explain this behavior.

LI and MP, feel free to hug your (future) wives. grin I only accept hugs from girls. snooty I am not a hijabi, I just wear a scarf.

Sadiyah, I sooooooo wanted to tell him something, but I didnt. I am not so bold. afsoos

EMM, I didnt realize the behavior was so rampant. sigh

Sara blush

[Grumpy]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

Welcome to stupidity. I have no clue why they do it. I used to do it when i was younger. Now depending on the female, its either a hug, besos or a handshake/wave.

They do it because they simply think desi girls will get the idea that the guys want to cop a feel.

[LuxuryItem]

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@Munni

LI and MP, feel free to hug your (future) wives. grin I only accept hugs from girls. snooty I am not a hijabi, I just wear a scarf.

One day, me and my friend met this hijaban. He extended his hand to shake her hand and she just stood there. No handshake! Ever since that handshake fiasco, I never extend my hand to a hijabi/scarfi girl. I don't even talk to them lest they just stare at my face not uttering a word. See moooneeee, I can see why some guys treat you like an untouchable because hijabans/scarfis are considered cold and unfriendly.

[Sadiyah]

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^

[Munni]

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@LuxuryItem

One day, me and my friend met this hijaban. He extended his hand to shake her hand and she just stood there. No handshake! Ever since that handshake fiasco, I never extend my hand to a hijabi/scarfi girl. I don’t even talk to them lest they just stare at my face not uttering a word. See moooneeee, I can see why some guys treat you like an untouchable because hijabans/scarfis are considered cold and unfriendly.

These same people see me talking to other guys in a normal manner, so why the difference in treatment? I mean why not atleast acknowledge me, like I said, I dont want to be hugged or anything of the sort, but why the total ignoring? And then staring when I talk to other people???

[Sadiyah]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

Munni, if I were you, I'd really go up to them and ask them why they treat you differently. It wouldn't kill you. :)

[LuxuryItem]

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@Munni

I mean why not atleast acknowledge me, like I said, I dont want to be hugged or anything of the sort, but why the total ignoring?

Mooooneeee, you are such a simpleton: It all starts with a nice, big, warm, bone crushing hug! Have you thought about wearing a body armour under your shirt or bun'yaan? A kevlar vest would also make that hug halaal as it would desensitize them and you to any tingly, warm, flesh squeezy sensations. :D

See Mooooneeeeee, nobody wants to be around people who just want to wag thier jaws. People like to touch and feel. Feel free to PM me, I don't mind being your first. :D

[itsme01]

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• sweating * - water need water

[Munni]

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@itsme01

• sweating * - water need water

Hmm, why are you sweating? hoonh

Sadiyah, too shy. uffhhhhhhhh I cant stand myself sometimes. cwy I wish I could send an anonymous email with how I feel and how the other muslim girls feel about this. hehe

LK, kya keh rahe haiN aap? My only issue is why they acknowledge them but wont acknowledge us. I am not even saying anything about the other stuff they do as that is their business, although its really something to have to explain to your girlfriends if hugging and stuff is Islamic and why guys are doing it but they never see girls doing it.

[LuxuryItem]

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@Munni

I am not even saying anything about the other stuff they do as that is their business, although its really something to have to explain to your girlfriends if hugging and stuff is Islamic and why guys are doing it but they never see girls doing it.

I am joking with you silly, you are being overly sensitive about all this.

Nobody is stopping from doing anything. If those guys give you hard time, tell them you'll plaster the campus with their pics kissing each other wearing only smiles on their faces. :D

[queer]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

munni, based on what you spoke on chat last night, and all your recent threads, it looks like you are doing everything at school except attend classes and study. to hell with muslim guys this, muslim guys that. go attend your classes, woman.

[Munni]

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@LuxuryItem

I am joking with you silly, you are being overly sensitive about all this.

Nobody is stopping from doing anything. If those guys give you hard time, tell them you’ll plaster the campus with their pics kissing each other wearing only smiles on their faces.

I know you are joking. grin But I still havent gotten a good explanation. snooty

queer, how did I know you would come here and say something as you just said. smile I am studyinggggggggggg. Reallyyyyyyyyy. Well today I have been. Two and a half more hours to go. afsoos

[itsme01]

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you see the problem is: this guy must be just kinda afraid to talk to you - Has to do more with culture.

[longhornCoder]

Re: Why do muslim guys do this?

well I think women can pray behind men!...i do not think there is a even a issue ont this subject..
Anywazs I have always been scared by hijabees/scarf.. but I respected hijabees a lot...
But I never understood those girls with revealing cloths with a scarf?..who stares at hair.?