The thing is you were never forced by any of these people. You were left on your will to do what you chose and you went for the choice that suited you most. Here i am talking about cases where it is either enforced or kept as a precondition or just a major reason of clash because the husband “just doesnt want wife to work” for any of the reasons i mentioned above. For those cases, i will agree to the insecurity and complex part with people. There is something in men who enforce these things.