Majority of the men I know prefer their women to stay home and not work.Even guys who are considered liberal and machos sometimes prefer it too. What are the reasons & pros/cons of it?
They think if they are earning well; she should just focus on home
They feel insecure of other men at work places
They feel the wife will not be able to focus on their home & him and it will be neglected.
They feel money is the only reason to work and if they are doing it why should she
They feel women get too independent & liberated because of it
They want only them to be the priority and cannot afford seeing any other thing become priority.
Just like Deeba, I'm also wondering where you live.
Among my family "back home", every single female has a graduate degree. My married female cousins who do NOT have children have full-time careers.
Among my family/social circle here, I don't know a single guy who wants his wife to stop working right after marriage. I know men (including my own fiance) who wants their wife to stop working once they have children....b/c they want the wives full devotion to the child at that time since they don't need the wife's income. But I don't personally know any man who wants his wife to stop working right after marriage.
Usually, if the husband is earning well enough to support the family, he would prefer the wife to stay at home so that she can provide a good home and environment to the family. However, many educated guys these days have no problem with their wives working and are willing to support their wives in their careers. I guess, if given an option and if they earn decently, many desi guys would prefer a stay at home wife.
I really don't think it's 'most' in the west at all and even if they don't want full-time working wives they usually don't have a problem with them working part-time.. I actually can't think of anyone who is deadly against their wife working at all.
(I'm not saying they don't exist, just I don't think it's the majority here by any stretch)..
What i have seen in my family...... girls who have professional degrees do job after marriage as well, and their husbands are OK with it. They are not meant to support their families but they are doing job because they want to make career. Husbands and even their in-laws are very cooperative with them. I think its just mindset of the person... some people doesn't like working women but these type of guys are not common nowadays. Guys who don't like working women mostly prefer to marry simple educated Gharelo girls not highly qualified profession girls.
Majority of men and families back in Pakistan wud prefer women to not work.....of the women I know in Pakistan, not a single one is educated past BA or has ever worked. Fortunately the younger generation is donig better--they're going higher than BA, working, etc....hopefully they can continue working once they're married.
IMO you can't comapre working women in Pakistan vs US....its not the same thing at all.
I know of a lot of working, independent women in Pakistan as well as abroad and although I'm not saying this idea doesn't exist but as far as I know it's not a majority anymore.
This doesn't mean to say there aren't many housewives out there, just that if these women ever did want to work most men will be supportive.
I dont know of any man who stopped his wife from work. At least not in my social circle. If wife is not working, its either because she does not want to, or because of mutual understanding that she can add more value as a SAHM. In the later scenraio, couple realizes that one person has to stay home and one to work, and in all the cases, hubby decided to work and wife stayed home. Its not because wife cannot secure higher income than hubby, but because ladies are much better than home management than guys.
cinderelli, I find it weird that you say 'Majority of men I know' and then you are having conflict with your fiance about not working. surely if the majority of men you know are like this, you would have expected it from your fiance?
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