So go ahead tell us your side of the story first to let us decide who is at fault in your case.
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ok! this guy never ever takes care of his parents, never says AOA or even hudahafiz to his parents. always stays away from home and related matters. all he is interested is that dad shud hand him over his share of property. now for that reason he expects his wife to be at her best behaviour all the time. where as parents think that they have every right to scold their bahu instead of confronting their son for this behaviour. everything the bahu says or does has to be wrong or unacceptable. i don't know what happened between them but poor wife has to bear the brunt. u keep my parents happy so they transfer me the property and what will become of the wife then?
jo aapnay maa baap ka sagga nahin woh biwi say kasay sincere ho ga??????
ok! this guy never ever takes care of his parents, never says AOA or even hudahafiz to his parents. always stays away from home and related matters. all he is interested is that dad shud hand him over his share of property. now for that reason he expects his wife to be at her best behaviour all the time. where as parents think that they have every right to scold their bahu instead of confronting their son for this behaviour. everything the bahu says or does has to be wrong or unacceptable. i don't know what happened between them but poor wife has to bear the brunt. u keep my parents happy so they transfer me the property and what will become of the wife then?
jo aapnay maa baap ka sagga nahin woh biwi say kasay sincere ho ga??????
So go ahead tell us your side of the story first to let us decide who is at fault in your case.
ok! this guy never ever takes care of his parents, never says AOA or even hudahafiz to his parents. always stays away from home and related matters. all he is interested is that dad shud hand him over his share of property. now for that reason he expects his wife to be at her best behaviour all the time. where as parents think that they have every right to scold their bahu instead of confronting their son for this behaviour. everything the bahu says or does has to be wrong or unacceptable. i don't know what happened between them but poor wife has to bear the brunt. u keep my parents happy so they transfer me the property and what will become of the wife then?
jo aapnay maa baap ka sagga nahin woh biwi say kasay sincere ho ga??????
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Now after this story the picture emerges that all he cares about is the property he is going to get when his father dies being happy with him. He is waiting and praying for his fathers death so that he could do mojaan he mojaan.
So ask him what are his plans if his father lives to be more than 100 years old and the property does not get distributed for next 30 40 years .
Once you get answer to this question then let me know then we might be able to decide the next step of the plan of action.
ok! this guy never ever takes care of his parents, never says AOA or even hudahafiz to his parents. always stays away from home and related matters. all he is interested is that dad shud hand him over his share of property. now for that reason he expects his wife to be at her best behaviour all the time. where as parents think that they have every right to scold their bahu instead of confronting their son for this behaviour. everything the bahu says or does has to be wrong or unacceptable. i don't know what happened between them but poor wife has to bear the brunt. u keep my parents happy so they transfer me the property and what will become of the wife then?
jo aapnay maa baap ka sagga nahin woh biwi say kasay sincere ho ga??????
Now after this story the picture emerges that all he cares about is the property he is going to get when his father dies being happy with him. He is waiting and praying for his fathers death so that he could do mojaan he mojaan.
So ask him what are his plans if his father lives to be more than 100 years old and the property does not get distributed for next 30 40 years .
Once you get answer to this question then let me know then we might be able to decide the next step of the plan of action.
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Ok, I may not be the best person to comment on this situation since I'm not married. However, one of my pet peeve is women who have got nothing better to do than whining about cooking, cleaning, doing clothes etc etc etc specially when they are living with their in-laws. Reason? Well, would you not do these jobs even if you live only and solely with you husband? how many of those women can afford maid(s) who can clean and cook for them everyday? And, Did you never do these chores when you were living with your own parents? Doing these chores for your parents and siblings is just fine but it's a torture if you have to do the same for your in-laws? Ridiculous!
---HELLO>>>MR..PAkistan main hota hoga...western countires main TEHY WORK TOO...HELLO NAUKARAANIYAAN chhayee apko..kabhi khud cook clean kiya ho pata ho.,.>THANK GOD...Canada main MEN COOK, clean themselves..coz some of dem cant afford Maids..lol.And some of them are great men as they share responsibilities equally with their wives..:)
And mr..Isaarai zidnagi parents unko princess ki tarah rakhtay hain...hardly ghar k kaam kerney ko kehtey hain..
SHukar Alalh ka Most canadian guys r well amtured and well educated..and are pretty much aware of the fact that they can b helping by cooking n cleaning..loland shuakr hai they share equal responsibilities here..:)..yahan i geuss unkay parents ne well train kiya hai:)
i think Husband and wife dono ko ek dosray ki khidmat ekrni chahyee..and her waqt ek dosray ki help kerni chahayee ..care ekrni chahayee..pyaar ekrna chahyee..problems solve kernii chahyee..coz Akailay koi ek kuch bhi nahii..agar woh dono ek dosray ka khayal nahi ekraingaye tu...zamana bhi badal gaya hai....koi ek step leyga and they'll move on..lol..they 'll get attracted towards the one jo zyada khayal ekrey unka:)..because we all need someone jo sunnay and khayal keray bina kisi lalach k:) ..:)time dey..
instead of looking for a solution girls come up with these man bashing threads. Why don't you all just admit that a cucumber will do it, too? You don't need a man to get satisfaction.
You want to get treated like a princess who wants to get her feet sucked by the husband and his parents, running after you 24/7, serving you 24/7...YOU DON'T NEED A MAN...You need a servant, a slave...I'd never give my Son to people like the topic starter...Fools will!! You make me so f'ckin angry...Did Islam say, give whife seperate home and forget the parents?
Haan, if husbands parents treat you like a slave you should do something and talk with the husband, but that doesn't mean you can start a "why do men marry at all" thread. I hope someone gives you a lesson, you need it badly!
You come up with Islam and forget that our Prophet (saw) said that Shaadi is a Sunnat. The people who don't marry don't belong to my Ummah. I THINK THIS IS THE REASON WHY MEN MARRY AT ALL!
Go out and live a f'ck-for-life life instead of discussing topics which have no head, no feet!
Well they shldnt marry if they cnat give their wife happiness...
If they think they can keep them happy tab hi shaadi ekrain..if their intention is to rule them over den ..UM SORRY!..and yes u r right..AND MR./NUMB ITS AN OPEN DISCUSSION ehre..if u dotn like de topic kahin aur baat ekrian..APKI ZUBAAN HI BATATI HAI kis type k insaan hain...app..lardnay atay hain yahaan???ya ghar ka ghussa utarnay????
INFACT MR SO CALLE DMUSLIm u have no right to talk to anyone like this...ISLAM ka naam kharab na kerain ..apni LINgo sambhal k rakhain..I CAN USE THE SAME wordss as u..per yaheen difference aajata hai app main aur hum main..anywyas...!And yes achay alrkay bhi HOTAy hain..PER buhut kum !
I know the truth hurts...yehi to meyn sun na chahta ta yeh sabaan istemaal kar ke...see, you can't judge me by my tongue, but you do...judge karna bot asaan hai...open discussion...yeh kis kissam ki fazool discussion hai?
men should marry if they can keep the whife happy...yeh kiya statement hai? I think every man wants to keep his whife happy! Koi shaque? Yes, there r some ****s who don't understand the values of life but putting poor man in the same category with the "*s" is not ok and this is why I don't like that topic *"why do men marry at all". I don't like the idea behind that. what ya wanna achieve?
My cousin in England got divorced. Inquiry kar ke patta challa babhi jaan wanted to settle down in England!
Why do women marry at all? She dares to say brother-in-law burri nazron se dekhta hai!??
When I heard this I was shocked! My cousin aapni bhabhi ko burri nazron se dektha hai? NO WAY, DAMN IT NO WAY, I know this guy for more than 10 years, I know this guy better than anyone in the whole family and this is the last sh't he'd do!
Piyar ki sabaan meyn bol ke, logo yeh rasta sahee naheen...we shouldn't hurt each other for our needs, we should learn and keep telling, keep preaching...lead by example, don't blame others, first work on our own character, accept the challenges we face and will face in future and ask Allah for forgiveness, seek guidance and pray Allah please be a helping hand in bad times! this topic is doin' the opposite...
K listen guy i kwn this guy since highskool...he got married to hsi best friend..he says girl awesome hai.mashallah bus ..he cant live with her...bataayain kis ka kasoor??
JEE apMr..apka andaaz samjhnanay ka galat hai yehi baat kisi uar tareeqay se keh skahtay hain..and guess what humnay iss sawal ko agar achi neeyat and sahi facts pe kiya hai tu shayad hi gunnah na milay..per apko gaaliyoun ka tu gunnah milayga hi..so app soch samajh k kahain tu acha hai...COz every word u say can make a difference..and it will hurt u at the end..!her WORD KA HISAAB HAI!
Islam main hai parents ki repsect keroo..and maa ki utni hi jitni wife ki..per Agar Biwi and maa dono ek dosray se alrdtay rehtay hain tu behtar hai donoo ko saath na rakha jaaye..coz ikhtilaaf aur bardhayga...waisay bhii soemtimes jealousies ajaati hain maa and daughter in law main... waisya bhi Thank God Ajkal k yahan pe jo parents hain they sa they want their own privacy...tu their son can move out..wid his wife..
Everyone just calm down in here. I haven't read all replies but about moving out of the house with the husband - why on earth would you want to even live alone with a guy like that?!? Someone who apparently doesn't give a damn about his parents and only cares for property/whatever. Unless, I've missed a few points or whatnot, thats all I have to say about it.
EDIT: And yes this thread shouldn't be addressing "men" in general at all. Because what your talking about is very specific, so it should stay at that.
