In most cases, when ever an issue is boiling up women prefer the lets-talk-it-out/discuss it route & men usually refrain from it. What is it about it that they dont like indulging much in?
P.S Yes the unmarried lads - Nomi/Seb/Noodle/ CM/Shahryar .. you are most welcome to give your input too!
Re: Why do men freak out when women say "lets discuss it"?
They don't like the part where they have to open/close their mouths while sounds emit.
Re: Why do men freak out when women say "lets discuss it"?
Well the only thing , I hate about discussion is , when people start it with a pre-set Agenda , hence they are never open to explore all possible options and their outcomes .
So one can say . when a women utters the golden phrase ' let's discuss it ' , she actually means ' let me tell you , how it should be done - stupid ' ....
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When my wife aggressively says , "Lets discuss it!!" I realize that she is at that time driven more by emotions and less by logic. So I say ok. I let her express herself fully so that she may say everything on her mind while I listen to her carefully. After a while when we are again in a light friendly mood, I share my point of view humbly (with love and respect), which Alhamdulillah she agrees to most of the time. If she still doesn't agree and present her logic, then I agree and accept her logic. At times we both agree upon something in between the two perspectives.
Whenever I say aggressively, "lets talk it out!!", my wife realizes that I am driven more by emotions and less by logic,.......so she deals with me in similar manner....
During the rare occasions when both of us are in "lets discuss it" mode then we both go to different rooms and wait for our own emotions to cool down first before we say anything to each other....
We both later feel guilty and say sorry for the unreasonable things that we might have said during the "emotional" mode.
Re: Why do men freak out when women say "lets discuss it"?
Its because when women say "lets discuss it" it usually means "You shut up and listen to why I think you are a dumbass." No woman ever says lets discuss it when she made a mistake and nor does a man jump on her when she does. He lets it slide because he already knows she is feeling bad about it. Thus making men better than women.
Re: Why do men freak out when women say "lets discuss it"?
its not discussion........discussion is supposed to be two-way.......basically its a looooooong rant from her...........
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Not all men freak out, they do listen as well sometimes, as long as she doesn't interrupt his CoD game
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I've grown out of that "let's talk about it" phase.
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:)
That's inspiring waise. I want to be there too.
I've grown out of that "let's talk about it" phase.
Re: Why do men freak out when women say “lets discuss it”?
peer of relationship advice hazrat chris rock says it all…
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@hareem01 .. so which phase are you in? do you let things be?
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If I am not wrong, the OP intended to use "Lets discuss it!" as a symbol of one's reaction to disagreements/conflicts. People might use different words to express it: "lets solve this issue", "lets settle this matter", "lets try to understand/clarify each other's perspective and the doubts that we have"
No one can deny the fact that two people living under the same roof would definitely have misunderstandings/ emotions/ disagreements and a couple needs* communication* to clarify them.
Re: Why do men freak out when women say "lets discuss it"?
@hareem01 .. so which phase are you in? do you let things be?
Well, now he's the one who starts the argument when he's annoyed about something so I just listen to him and try not to say anything rude....then I go and treat myself with some nice shopping.
And when I'm annoyed at him, I don't complain, I just go on a shopping spree.
Re: Why do men freak out when women say “lets discuss it”?
haha so shopping is the solution in both cases. you go girl! 
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I've grown out of that "let's talk about it" phase.
Yea now she just stares evilly at him and it get done as per her will and wish :D
U evil Tyrant :)
Re: Why do men freak out when women say “lets discuss it”?
Bro said it all 
Re: Why do men freak out when women say "lets discuss it"?
because they dont mean what they say. Here is a little cheat sheet for single guys to print and carry with them
We need to talk = I need to complain
and here are more
You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me
Do whatever you want = You are going to pay for this later
Do you love me? = I’m going to ask for something expensive
How much do you love me? = I did something today you’re really going to hate
Sure…go ahead (or Its ok) = I don’t want you to
It’s your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now
I’m not upset = Of course I’m upset, you moron!
This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house
I want new curtains = I want new curtains, new carpeting, new furniture, new wallpaper…
I need new shoes = the other 40 pairs are simply the wrong shade
I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep
I’ll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on T.V. (This usually means you have to wait longer enough, so be patient)
Is my butt fat? = Tell me I’m beautiful
Are you listening to me? = Too late, you’re dead
I need = I want
We need = I want
I’m sorry = You’ll be sorry
Do you like this recipe? = It’s easy to fix, so you’d better get used to it
Was that the baby? = Why don’t you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep
I’m not yelling! = Of course I’m yelling, this is important!
Re: Why do men freak out when women say “lets discuss it”?
errr because men know its a one way discussion most of the times :halo:
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btw, DD, you opened such a comforting thread for the chauvinists here 
giving them an ample opportunity you know, to pour their hearts out 
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let's talk about it doesnt work..period.
Esp if one is in a vulnerable pre-boiling stage. It only means a long unended rant session ended by flaring up from both sides IMO.
