Re: Why Do men do this??????
I definitely think you'll find a higher proportion of girls in the US, at least, who do things outside their homes. Most of the girls I know are active in the community, leaders in their workplace, and do a lot of good for people. But then, community service and leadership and hobbies are very much encouraged in grade school here, so we build that sort of a culture. These are things critical to have no your CV. So, I think if you find a girl from America who was raised here, she'll probably be more experienced with worldy issues than a girl from Pakistan, more accomplished, and therefore more adaptable and flexible and will probably have better people skills. The girls here who are well educated and accomplished KNOW what to say and WHEN to say it.
So less fights with in-laws.
The drama I see in the community here is with girls who are less educated, more "desi" in their mentality, and are often girls who were picked up from back in Pakistan. I know plenty of bahus who are giving problems to their in-laws here, and its their own fault - they got a bride from a culture that they don't even relate to much anymore. So what were they thinking??