PM Sahib,
Zaahir si baat hai k jis mulk main koi pala bara hai…us environment ka thora bahut influence to hoga insaan par.
I mean DUH, that’s a no-brainer. Did you really think that girls who are born outside of Pakistan are going to always wear shalwar kameez when they’re outside and have the same body language and mannerisms and view points as girls who live in Pak? That’s ridiculous.
It all depends upon the environment that one is raised in. If you have been born and raised in the west…your way of thinking, dressing, sense of humor will have a bit of western influence in it. Not necessarily 100%, but some.
And there are many people (men and women) in Pakistan who are influenced by the west. I grew up in the Middle East…and them moved to the US. And I have also noticed that there is a difference b/w desi girls in the Middle East and the ones in Pak.
Apart from writing posts that usually make little sense, you also have a habit of stereotyping and generalizing women. I can tell you from experience…and trust me…I’ve been to Pakistan MANY MANY MANY MANY MANY times…used to go every summer as a kid/teen. And I’ve noticed (and my mom to a certain extent as well) that even some of the girls who live in the smallest cities of Pakistan can be more chalaak/taiz/do qadam aagay than girls brought up in the US.
Notice that I said “SOME” girls that are born and raised in Pak are like that. I’m not stereotyping the whole lot of them. A person’s character depends upon their environment, how their parents raised them, education, experiences, etc.
As far as ABCD girls acting more “desi” during rishta visits…if you mean that they act polite and reserved and calm…do keep in mind that most people act polite and formal in the presence of guests…and one would naturally be reserved around strangers…especially in the daunting rishta scenario.
There are girls in the West, who wear western clothes and desi clothes, who appreciate and cook meals from both cultures, who celebrate their culture, and who try to follow their religion to the best of their ability. Nobody is perfect. They have the best of both worlds. Why should one have to make up their mind? A woman living in Pak has only had to deal with the culture and expectations and lifestyle of Pakistan. Whereas a woman born and raised in the US will blend both cultures. It’s human nature…we tend to assimilate/accommodate to our environment.
However, maybe I’m being too harsh. You’ve improved a little bit. Before you used to bash ALL women. And now you’re showing some appreciation for at least ONE GROUP of women: those that live in Pak. So, maybe you should marry a girl from Pak. If anything, it might lead to better-informed posts about our gender, in general.