Girls from abroad are well rounded and have the best of both worlds.
Okay, how is this true Monk? If you’ve seen character-less girls abroad, Ive seen them in real life in Pakistan and here. One of your fob-girls managed to get pregnant twice (aborted twice) with two different men while she was engaged to someone here. The girls I know that are currently living with their inlaws and making things work for their marriages are definitely NOT fob-girls…they’re ABCDs. All the fobs I know are doing their own thing, dont care for family and are living the “modran” life. The abayas are rotting in some corner of the house along with their full-coverage shalwar kameez.
If you plan on staying in the West, marrying in the West and having children here also…you might have a daughter someday Inshallah. When and if you do, you will spend your entire life giving her the best of the best deeni taaleem and education. You might even change your life around to be a better example for her. You will beat any man that dares to look at her with a red hot poker. You will want your daughter to be looked at for who she is and what she has accomplished. And then someone will come out of nowhere to tell you your child is character-less JUST because she happened to be born in Canada. How will you react? Will you be nice to them or will you want to punch them because your entire life’s sacrifices will be flashing in front of your eyes? How dare they say that about your child? How dare they say that about anyone else’s child?
No, the girls here are not failing to develop character any less then any girl in Pakistan…in fact there is more integrity and honesty here then there ever was in Pakistan. My parents wont even marry us to boys within the family, thats how much fraud happens there. Paper marriages are a problem because of lack of integrity in fobs. When a fob shows up for a rishta anywhere…everyone looks at them suspicously. WHy? Is it because he has horns coming out of his head? No, its because he and his kind have damaged Pakistanis reputations due to greed and hasad. Fathers are hesitant to marry their kids off to fob-men because of green card scams that Pakistanis have done. Its a real life problem. My cousin just got married in Pakistan and her father (my mamu) gave gold, cash, furniture, appliances, cars and scooters for jehez. My cousin’s saas (a Pakistani woman) demanded all these things from my mamu. What character are you dreaming of?
If ABCDs are looked at as characterless and badmash then fobs are looked at greedy, conniving and characterless.