Re: Why Do men do this???
^ Desi mothers, who have experienced ALL the unfairness of desi society’s attitude toward women, don’t want to make life easier for the future generation of women. Instead they want the young women who come after them to suffer in the same way. That’s how I see it.
They want a “bahu” who is basically pure, virgin, innocent, meek, submissive, passive…a doormat…who dare not challenge or question their decisions…who will do all the housework and tolerate any abuse without complaint. And they firmly believe that a girl born and brought up in the motherland embodies these “praiseworthy” attributes.
In some cases, desi parents feel that they should get a girl from Pak because she might be able to “FIX” their messed up son or would be too naive to see that he is messed up, or perhaps he’s having a harder time finding someone suitable and think that it will be eaiser to find a girl from Pak.
People are also picky about other things regarding rishtas. To each their own. Do you really want to have in-laws with such narrow views who have already made up their mind about you before even getting to know you? Their views are merely an opinion, not a fact. I’ve noticed that some girls brought up in Pak can be more chalak and shrewd than their western counterparts. Try not to dwell on them. Someone who is worth your time will get take the time to get to know you.
This.
The mother and the son usually want some passive doormat.
Frankly, taking a daughter away from her parents to another country is cruel. I’d never do it.
Men treat women like dirt, women end up becoming twisted as a result, and subject the new generation of women to the same cruelty they went through. They do men’s job for them.
When men become lazy, entitled and arrogant, they utterly destroy the women around them.