*So in conclusion:
*
Here's why it's fair: these men have a right to choose whoever they want to marry. Them being raised in America doesn't mean they owe it to anybody to marry a girl who was also born and brought up there. What might not be fair is if someone is accused of something they are not guilty of. It should be looked at on a case by case basis.
general rule of thumb. boys look for a life-partner. not a second/primary earner for the household. so no matter how much you achieve, at the end of the day, if you're 30 and then looking, it is going to get tough. it happens in every other society/culture too.
the end.