Why do men do this? I have noticed that it’s mostly mid-aged men that betray their wifes more often than young ones. Do they loose interest on their wifes, who are mostly at home taking care of their childern and basically a good and caring house wife but still some men find this is not enough. Is it because the housewife has not developed mentally due to lack of professional life and men loose interest and seek someone with the same thoughts. Of course I am talking about the western society cos this is more common here.
I noticed this at my workplace that some men have their “things” going with other females behind the backs of their wifes or are they only rumours. Well anyway.
Unfaithfulness has never been found to be sex related.Men & women are have different periods in which thery are most desirable ,therefore during those periods ,they have most oppertunity .Yet not everyone take advantage of those oppertunity for various principle & moral reasons both men & women.To say men are more immoral than women is not correct either.
If there was any gene of unfaithfullness ,it cannot be only in Y chromosome or rather independent of gender chromosome.Most attractive girls are content with one man & many immoral unattractive girls are slut.Its question of character & not only oppertunity.Same is true of men.
Bik Gaya Jo Woh Kharidar Nahi Ho Sakta
[This message has been edited by H.Roshan (edited December 13, 2001).]
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Originally posted by nomaan: the title is sexist. it imples only men do this.
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tut tut, I dont think so. If you guys find that females should not doing this or that, all of you contribute, I for once wanted to know why mostly men do something, yes its both sided but men tend to do it more often, its a fact, not many replied.
how would someone know in general why some men are unfaithful? we can hypothesize but none of us are experts and i believe none of us can speak from personal experience, so the lack of participation by men does'nt matter in this thread, everyone will be philosophizing or giving textbook answers.
how would someone know in general why some men are unfaithful? we can hypothesize but none of us are experts and i believe none of us can speak from personal experience, so the lack of participation by men does'nt matter in this thread, everyone will be philosophizing or giving textbook answers.**
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Fraudz you have a point there. Thank God that pakistani men are not like some men I've seen here. So thread closed now.
We can blame it on vixens who give you the eye as you are taking the 6 train to work or the girl at work who can't but help wear that low cut top, the secretary in the leather skirt at the office christmas parties, the incessant barrage of flesh on tv and all around you. But what is in the mind of the married man is not necessarily what he ends up succumbing to.
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Originally posted by SADI:
** Fraudz you have a point there. Thank God that pakistani men are not like some men I've seen here. So thread closed now.
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I just wanted to comment on that from what I experienced, which might have been a rare occassion, but nonetheless I experienced it. I used to work for a large company that had in my department, 80% pakistani men. There were not that many, and I was one of only two females, but I can tell you that the majority of guys working in my department participated in what some would deem excessive flirting, and they dated women whom were not their(outside of) girlfriends/fiancees and wives. I personally found it disgusting and even spoke against it in as friendly manner as possible when I got the chance, but majority didnt seem to care. Their response was, once we are actually married then we will not do this sort of thing. Lets hope so for their wives sake. I left that company because my boss who was an engaged pakistani, made several advances towards me.
Just my experience, I dont believe majority of people are like that, these are just the few and far between, or so I hope.
Learn to love yourself, then learn to love one-another
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Originally posted by armughal:
**i dont know, am not married yet....
but i know many girls and if my wife thinks i betray her if i continue talking to these girls, i dont think i can help it....
cuz i see them as friends....
maybe my wife can keep me home with her but dont know what will happen....
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So are you going to allow your wife to have guys as friends? I mean husband and wife, each having friends of opposite sex, is bound to raise unnecessary suspicions.
I think your behaviour - and the acceptance of it by others depends upon your intentions and maturity.
I don't see problems about having friends of the opposite sex - but I would never go to the movies with one of them like I would do with a girl friend. I don't have problems if my husband is friends with the girls in his office, I trust him to know where to draw the line.
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majority of guys working in my department participated in what some would deem excessive flirting, and they dated women whom were not their(outside of) girlfriends/fiancees and wives… , but majority didnt seem to care. Their response was, once we are actually married then we will not do this sort of thing. **
the married guys said they would stop flirting after they got married? some factual inconsitency here
The answer lies in evolution (if you believe in that rubbish!!)
Modern men have evolved from being the hunters, being away from home and not too involved in home-building. They used to go away from home for months at a time. They used to go to wars and get ionvolved in the loot and pillaging afterwards. In general, provide bread for the family but not very loyal when away!
Modern female is evolved from the family matriarch who would bring up the family. She would be very loyal to family and would sacrifice her personal desires over the betterment of the family.
Similar behaviour can be seen in animals too where the male is the horny fella who wants to climb on anything that moves. The females are generally more selective!!
It is not just dependant on culture- I would say (being a male myself) that given the opportunity, provided nobody would find out, over 80% of the male population accross the world would not say no to a good lay!! (Just to clarify I class myself as within the 20% faithful males)
A jealous wife hired a private detective to check on the movements of her husband. The wife wanted more than a written report; she wanted video of her husband’s activities.
A week later, the detective returned with a video. They sat down together to watch it. Although the quality was less than professional, the wife saw her husband meeting another woman!
She saw the two of them laughing in the park. She saw them enjoying themselves at an outdoor cafe.
She saw them dancing in a dimly lit nightclub. She saw the woman and her husband participate in a dozen activities thoroughly enjoying themselves.
“I just can’t believe this,” the distraught wife said.
The detective said, “What’s not to believe? It’s right up there on the screen!”
The wife replied, “I can’t believe that my husband could be so much fun!”