What do you think, on what grounds a marriage relation should be established? What do you think about the challanges marriage brings to one’s life and what are the psychological demands married people seek in each other, as man and woman?
What do you think, why marriages fail these days?
Marriages fail in any case whatever you do. I am against marriages :-|
That's a good question. Marriages need to be based on trust, understanding, & unity. These are the same phychological demands each spouse demands of each other. I believe marraiges fail because of a lack of any of those elements. Once married its not everyone for himself, the couple is a couple & should not be thought of as individuals living together.
Re: Bliushing vision
Hi!!
The first thing is to develop false faith among the two, in the beginning of the their marriage days or months upto an year or so.
Second thing is the habbits of speaking lies; which really shatteres the personalities' confidence on each other; and they both doubt the sincerities of each others.
Husbands not appreciating wives and wives not appreciating husbands as they take it for granted that they are for each other forever.
So bonds between them continuously becomes looser and looser.
Indulgence of parents in their lives.
Trying to live in the aera which has gone past forever would never return back.
Not facing the realities of todays culture and its needs.
Trying to create self centered environment either by the wife or by the husband.
Interference of husband or wife in very very personal matters of each other, as they think nothing can now be personal to any one of them.etc etc
Bye sokoon
Why do marriages fail?
Well, because they don't pass.
they fail when you you feel the need to succeed in them.
funguy....try not to derail every thread you enter, please.
ghulail...can you elaborate on your philosophical statement?
i was um... saying kay.....umm.....kay kitnee ajeeb baat hay kay.......umm
...yeh thread....umm feedback may nahee hay....toa.....um.....aap mujh say
itnay authority kay saath....um......kiyun sawal.....kar rahee hain?....um...
aap kahain toa chashma uthar daytee hoon. yeh lain. :)
khush?
(sokoon, sokoon mil gaya?)
authority?
lagta hai aap kuch ziyada hee nazuk hain.
Re: why do marriages fail?
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by blushing_vision: *
What do you think, why marriages fail these days?
[/QUOTE]
Expectation and mental illness
nazuk toa nahee bus kabhee kabhar kuch yoon honay lagtaa hay:
So bonds between them continuously becomes looser and looser.
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Muzna: *
funguy....try not to derail every thread you enter, please.
[/QUOTE]
Muzna, try not to tell me what to do. And if you do, do it in a polite way. And while you are at it try not to generalize your comments. Every thread you enter?. I would like to have what you are smoking.
In a broader sense... lack of respect and trust... inability to function as one unit is an effect and a very important one.. but cause is in my opinion what I have listed earlier...
Cheap wedding/engagement rings 
On a more serious note I don’t know.
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by funguy: *
Muzna, try not to tell me what to do. And if you do, do it in a polite way.
[/QUOTE]
Didn't I say please?
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by funguy: *And while you are at it try not to generalize your comments. Every thread you enter?.
[/QUOTE]
Maybe you could try saying please too.
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by funguy: *
I would like to have what you are smoking.
[/QUOTE]
Ask politely and you might get some.
From the failed marriages that Iv seen, one thing seemed to be common.After people get married, its only natural that they will start to change as individuals. But the trouble always seemed to be that very thing , there was that "You're not the person I first married" theme. Some people dont try hard enough to make the marriage work.Then ocourse there are the usual in law problems.
Do you consider an unhappy married life a failure or are you referring to divorce/separation?
Marriages fail because most of the time they are done under pressure or done just for the sake of getting married. There are different kinds of pressures…parents, friends, biological clock, or simple thuruk leads to wrong marriages.
IMO, two people who love eachother and are willing to take this step would definitely give their bond a chance during the toughest of times.
There is many reasons that marriage fails.
Like the partners dont have understanding with
each other.
Coz the boy or girl live's in Uk or Us and theire
thinking is very different then someone of Pk.
Or ur husband or wife have a affaire thats also
reason that a marriage fails.
And many other reasons.
Marriages fail for so many reasons.
But I think it boils down to two people who for some reason (and this is not a judgement, just a statement) are unable or unwilling to communicate. What to communicate? Mostly expectations I suppose.
hummm
waisay to bohut sari wajohad ho sakti hain un main say aik, some ppl just dont know/learn how to share.