As i had mentioned in my previous thread,i broke off all the contact with the guy,because there was no progress happening as in terms of marriage because his mom isn’t willing to accept me,despite of him trying very hard.but now that i have cut off all contacts with him,i feel very bad.i feel i have hurt him and broken his heart.Also,after i had broken all the contacts with him,once he called me,and while questioning me why did i do all this with him,he got all emotional,and even burst out into tears..
What should i do? What i did was wrong?
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and I thought “breaking all contact” and “talking on phone” are mutually exclusive…
btw people feel bad after quit smoking too. Some go back to smoking, some move forward
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You did the right thing... stay on it.
if he is so emotional about you, he'll know how to make his mom accept you.
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:k:
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You shouldn't feel bad as long as you have explained the whole thing to him nicely. That as long as you see no future in this relationship you will not talk to him any more, as it will be harder to get out of it for both of you if you kept contact. And that this is the best thing to do for both of you until some things are certain.
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be strong, trust me there are dozens of stories, where guy is crying on phone, and poor mother doesn't even know about the girl's existence.
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you know him better than any of us, do you think he's the type to stay strong and stand up to his mom even after marriage? don't want to seem negative, but think very carefully and don't do any impulsive moves b/c you're very emotional as well and on the rebound right nwo so try to think practically if you do decide to go ahead with this rishta, is he the type to stand up for you just in case his mother yells at you or says anything to you. Who knows he might love you enough to do that.
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this is why i think the arranged marriage process is a bit better. there's no emotional attachment or weaning off when you know the relationship will be a nightmare. no emotions involved at all.
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Yes,you are right, but i just answered his call once when he kept calling,and no contact after that.
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You did the right thing, if you saw no future with him. Time will make things better Insh’Allah 
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What should i do? What i did was wrong?
Be strong...you did the right thing...and there isn't anything else you can do...
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he is emotional for a moment. it will take few days when he even doesnt call you or remember you.
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BTW, how long this bad feeling will continue.
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As i had mentioned in my previous thread,i broke off all the contact with the guy,because there was no progress happening as in terms of marriage because his mom isn't willing to accept me,despite of him trying very hard.but now that i have cut off all contacts with him,i feel very bad.i feel i have hurt him and broken his heart.Also,after i had broken all the contacts with him,once he called me,and while questioning me why did i do all this with him,he got all emotional,and even burst out into tears.. What should i do? What i did was wrong?
I will give you my totally presumptuous answer.
By the look of things, you did not really love him in the first place. You are feeling guilty because somewhere deep down you are, at least, relieved that it is over. You may also be feeling guilty because you may have intentionally or unintentionally allowed this affair to be dragged on and on when you knew that there is no ending to it.
As you are asking others what have you done wrong, so there must be something. Best is to answer it to yourself.
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^ May be you are right that i have had never really loved him,but i could have taken a stand for him but i didn't think it appropriate to do so,as i felt,once married, the things could turn worse,and who knows,he may later regret going against his single mother to marry me, so that's why i felt breaking contacts off was a safer choice. But i feel bad thinking of him and all that he has done for me. I feel that somewhere what was being done is unfair for him.
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you are just wasting your time with wrong guy.
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Take a vacation and go on a luxury cruise . You will forget everything. Trust me.
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^ lol,okay!
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Take him back. Not many men cry for a woman. ;)
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Take him back. Not many men cry for a woman. ;)
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