Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
Catty, I've found that to be true of most people, not just men. When I take my boys to the doctor, when I speak to teachers, when I talk to anyone other than family....they hear "stay-at-home Mom" and assume I'm barely literate lol! My husband respects and appreciates what I do so thats really all that matters to me - I'd not want it any other way but it does get annoying sometimes kwim? I left a lucrative career so that I could be home with my boyz and people just dont have respect for that role anymore. Or at least the level of respect that it used to have.
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
i know it happens quite a lot in the society!! my gng to be husband respects me in this manner..as am gnna leave my studies family everything for him at this young age...am jst 19 where he is abt 9 years older than me. ..and quite mature.....also its a love marriage....we agreed that i can join my uni afterwards....
but to be honest it dnt happen in most families..which is soooo sad!!
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
Who said anything about raising children? All I said was marriage, not taking care of the family, raising children, budgeting and all that. I am to assume that some 18 year old has already made up her mind about this?
And mama you don't count. You said you worked on Wall Street for a couple of years, that means you already have work experience. I was talking about girls who have no solid education, and no work skills, and all they look forward to is getting married.
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
marriage inculdes raising childern..taking care of family etc..these thngs r part of marriage....or u think marriage is jst another excuse to sleep witheachother and tke care of the partner
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
Who said anything about raising children? All I said was marriage, not taking care of the family, raising children, budgeting and all that. I am to assume that some 18 year old has already made up her mind about this?
And mama you don't count. You said you worked on Wall Street for a couple of years, that means you already have work experience. I was talking about girls who have no solid education, and no work skills, and all they look forward to is getting married.
Are you talking about girls who are obsessed with teh wedding aspect of shadi??
Maybe they plan on going to college and stuff after getting married and having kids? who knws.
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
TDW...yes I understand. I'm a bit different - been there, done that, got another t-shirt kinda thing. I know exactly what its like to live in the high-pressure world of trading floors and deadlines. This is a nice thing as far as being able to relate to my hubby etc.
But know what? I am an older parent. I do not have the tireless energy of a 20-something mom who can do so much more around the house and with the kiddies. I tire so much more easily and find myself wishing that instead of working those 80 or 90 hour weeks, I had been having and playing with my boyz!
I always knew that I would have children IF I could stay home and be with them. OR I would have a great career and earn lotsa money and enjoy myself. I cant do both, at least not well.
But if theres a gal who at age 17 or 20 knows that she just wants to be a home-maker then maybe the guy who marries her is very lucky. Those gals tend to be more mature for their age and the best moms and home-makers. Its not that they are looking for the easy life, eating bon-bons while watching soap operas all day, yeah? Its really hard work to be a GOOD home-maker. And its a job for the young.
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
I do sometimes find it strange that girls as young as 16 are giving up their education and getting married, I’m going to turn 21 in 2 months and I know a girl who got married at 17, she went to school with me before she got married
Bascically the girl was always thinkin of marriage and her parents found out that she was seeing guys behind their backs:smack: and got her maried to a guy who is 15 years her senior and now 3 years:( after marriage she has a child :Dand has given up on even attempting to get an education- she did want to study but things didnt go that way and now she’s compeltely dependent on her husband:(. I guess if she did study in the beginnig and think gees this might help me later on she could have a solid education and then get married. But unfortunately it was more along the lines of all I want to do is get married and when she did she realised how important education is…
Although not every story is like this there are positive stories where girls even study after marriage :). Getting married does seem exciting but after the band bajaa go home the reality sinks in and life goes on as usual… and girls who have the ‘want to get married and dont need an education to support me mindset’ hardly think beyond the wedding
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
And then live off of the husband.
I am not talking about the other half which is actively seeking professional education, working and trying to become self supporting. I am talking about the girls whose mission in life is just to get married.
Their life revolves around it. University? Why bother, just go to community college for 4-5 years till a good rishta comes along. Part time job? Just get one which requires the least amount of work, just to pass time. Forget actually trying to get some marketable skills or trying to grow at a position. Rest of the time just obsess over bridal wear, jewelery and get jealous of other girls who are married.
What is their plan in life IF things don't work out? Just move back with parents and live off of alimony payments?
I'm curious as to what kind of wife your aspiring for??
Re: Why do half the girls only have one mission in life? Get married.
I was one of those girls... but for a year now I've done a 360 degree turnaround. I am so happy being single, and enjoying my life so much - although I'm in my late 20s I feel very young. It's also largely because I finally got a job I love and want to build my career. My parents have stopped pressurising me, and I have an amazing group of friends. sigh life is good AH :)
