Being single doesn't prevent you from falling for someone. Whether those feelings are reciprocated and whether or not they result in marriage is another issue.
Being married doesn't always or necessarily prevent you from developing feelings for another person besides your spouse. You may feel that there's less liberty to do so than someone who is single.
Does marriage make it "easier" to be in love? I'm not married but my guess is that marriage may develop your understanding of the idea of love....in that it's more than a heady feeling/attraction/...and involves compromise and sacrifice, etc. I imagine married couples have their days when they find it "challenging" (not easier) to love their partner. Marriage is the only relationship that is accepted in Islam...and more accepted by Desi society....so once you have that "married" status....I guess you one might feel more at ease with the going about the relationship/interactions with their partner... as they don't have to worry much about societal perceptions/pressures...because the relationship is now "jaiz" or legal. Can be a bigger issue for girls more than guys...since Desi culture is less tolerant of girls being in relationship.
Being single doesnt prevent from being in love at all. Being single may prevent you from completely letting yourself go in a relationship…based on your personal beliefs. If you fall in love, you find it harder to be single…you want to be with them. So, if you reverse the order…that might be more true.
Being in love prevents people from being single but not the other way around.
Does marriage make it easier to be in love? Again, the reverse is more true than this statement. Being in love makes marriage a lot easier but not vice versa. Marriage binds two people together in practicality, yes. Does it bind hearts together? Some might even say they fell in love after marriage…most might actually.
Does being single prevent you from having a settled life? Ummm…the definition of settled according to desi culture is having your life on its way. Having a home, car, job, wife and kids. That is settling. So, according to desi culture…you’re not settled until you’re married.
Being single doesn't prevent you from being in love, infact you're more likely to fall in love if you're single. In our religion/culture, marriage is the only way to be with the person you love, that's why many resort to it..and legal contractual marriage certifies your commitment to the other person.
I'm doing a little experiment in desi matrimonial psychology (very interesting subject to say the least). I'd be thrilled to have your input.
Which of the following statements do you most agree with. (Feel free to divulge as much or as little information as you like)
I got/will get married because:- (Check all that apply)
1. My spouse, parents, relatives and/or friends wanted me to.
2. My religion prescribes marriage as the only lawful way of having a romantic relationship/family.
3. I wanted financial stability or the ability to stay at home.
4. I wanted to immigrate to the country of my spouse.
5. I wanted to have/raise children and believe being married best allows me to do so.
6. I think everyone ought to be married eventually, and remaining single is not the ideal state of an adult.
7. (Other reasons, please specify)
Please refrain from trite answers like "all of them" unless you really mean it. Thanks!
Other:
I was inclined to pick #1 and #6, since it was my parents who were "pushing" me to get married. The reality was that when I actually met the girl they had in mind, it felt that getting married was the right thing to do. Before that I was actually content with my life but after getting married, I felt that it's a natural thing to do and that I would have had to do it eventually.
Is it too hard to be serious when someone asks for it?
Sometimes. On another forum that I browse, somebody once started a topic with the title "Can we be serious for a minute?"
So one of the responses quoted that and the poster's reply was "I stopped reading there."
To all those who said they would marry for love (Deeba1234, maroush, GlamDoll, Marwah, redvelvet, HNK, NiceUsman, Shak09, Little Princess)
Does being single prevent you from being in love? Does marriage (legal contractual marriage, not just cohabitation) make it easier to be in love?
To all those that said they would marry to settle down (libranrulz, Little Princess, pkgrl000)
Does being single prevent you from having a 'settled' (safe, smooth) life.
I think being settled mean that you have stability in your life. Marriage on the other hand is a big change in a person's lifestyle and how he lives and works. So in order to be settled and stable you need to go through this phase in life. Secondly, I think it helps alot in settling down to a more permanent degree if you have someone helping you out and working with you in the settling down process.
I'm doing a little experiment in desi matrimonial psychology (very interesting subject to say the least). I'd be thrilled to have your input.
Which of the following statements do you most agree with. (Feel free to divulge as much or as little information as you like)
I got/will get married because:- (Check all that apply)
1. My spouse, parents, relatives and/or friends wanted me to.
2. My religion prescribes marriage as the only lawful way of having a romantic relationship/family.
3. I wanted financial stability or the ability to stay at home.
4. I wanted to immigrate to the country of my spouse.
5. I wanted to have/raise children and believe being married best allows me to do so.
6. I think everyone ought to be married eventually, and remaining single is not the ideal state of an adult.
7. (Other reasons, please specify)
Please refrain from trite answers like "all of them" unless you really mean it. Thanks!
Other:
I was inclined to pick #1 and #6, since it was my parents who were "pushing" me to get married. The reality was that when I actually met the girl they had in mind, it felt that getting married was the right thing to do. Before that I was actually content with my life but after getting married, I felt that it's a natural thing to do and that I would have had to do it eventually.
how can you even feel about a girl that this is the girl that you are going to marry by just meeting her .. :S .. .. I AM SERIOUS!
I should have worded my list better. You fall under 6.
You are answer seems to be a mix of 3. and 5.
That sounds like 1.
The rest of you are implying marriage is entertaining, lol. Here's hoping...
No I don't, I'd only marry for love but I don't agree with no. 6 'I think everyone ought to be married eventually, and remaining single is not the ideal state of an adult.'
I don't think everyone ought to be married eventually, some ppl will prefer to stay single and that's down to them imo.. Falling in love and wanting to marry rather than feeling that you need to be marry (whether to somehow cement that love or for social approval or some other reason) are two different things imo.
^ Yea like I said, badly worded on my part. The 6. statement is an approximation for marrying for ideological reasons in the absence of social/religious pressures and/or financial/political incentives.
LOL i asked this question in a group of ladies i was with and one answered that her hubby says, nikkah kerlo to din raat s3x ki tension he hatum ho jaati hai
i will because my dad likes him..n his family wants me to marry him..i get along with his sister..i think his mom is soo sweet..i think he s so humble n obedient n a good shareef guy..not to mention drop dead gorgeous..n cause i wanna be happy 4 ever n ever n ever..with him :)
