Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
go to a club n have a good time .. ull forget everything
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How should a girl make sure whether he has talked or not when all he kept saying is that he had talked to his family & they all knew...
What should she do? Call up his house and ask his parents , "Aap k betay ne aap se meray baaray main baat ki ya nahin?" Climb a tree with a pair of binoculars and see into his house?
There isn't a way you can make "sure" about this. You will KNOW if he's genuine when his parents call your house. In other words, if his actions match up his words....then he's sincere and can be trusted.
You keep mentioning that he "said" he was God-fearing.....that he "said" he promised you so n so....that he "said" he wants this and that. But his actions didn't match up and they spoke the loudest. That's why they say, "Talk is cheap." If there is anything you should learn from this experience it's to pay more attention to what the guy does than to what he says and see if there's a consistency between the two. I think we all need to remind ourselves of that from time to time.....cuz it is easy to forget.
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Starting praying :) !!! ... Allah will help!!! You wouldn't be needing guidance from GUPPIES...
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Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
this proves that you don't have to believe anyone for what they say...
...and, btw, since when 'God fearing people' go on dating? for the sake of argument, isn't it against Islam?
...you seem to be obsessed with him and as a result you are tormenting/torturing yourself!
Re: Why did he do this?
Hardly, BSB. 
Just common sense advice that even I need to be reminded of at times.
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
It took you this long to question his Allah-fearing-ness? Shouldn’t the dating/interactions without marriage have raised that flag?
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You have made the above comment twice. If someone has to show off/brag about being Allah-fearing.........then are they really that God-fearing and that great of a Muslim? I see it more as a negation. Something to consider. I think that a person who sincerely fears Allah would be more humble.
What should she do? Call up his house and ask his parents , "Aap k betay ne aap se meray baaray main baat ki ya nahin?" Climb a tree with a pair of binoculars and see into his house?
There isn't a way you can make "sure" about this. You will KNOW if he's genuine when his parents call your house. In other words, if his actions match up his words....then he's sincere and can be trusted.
You keep mentioning that he "said" he was God-fearing.....that he "said" he promised you so n so....that he "said" he wants this and that. But his actions didn't match up and they spoke the loudest. That's why they say, "Talk is cheap." If there is anything you should learn from this experience it's to pay more attention to what the guy does than to what he says and see if there's a consistency between the two. I think we all need to remind ourselves of that from time to time.....cuz it is easy to forget.
Hmmmm.. You're right! Love the way you write!
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Thinking about namehram murd in ramadan with a fast . . . astaghfarullah kanoon ko haat lagayaing
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Let's face it. None of us can know the true reasons. Sometimes it's a lack of empathy and emotional attachment followed by logical thinking, other times it's a complete lack of care (not being so into you), and other times it's due to the complexity of the situation and the desire to not deal with it. Guys have a way of just "needing their own space" when problems arise so it could be that. Whereas females are more likely to want to talk it out, guys often times like to run when problems arise.
But the truth is this: if the guy's brain and/or heart really wanted to pursue you, he wouldn't just avoid you like that. It truly may be time for you to move on. I know it's tough but it's what must happen. Good luck. :)
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Thinking about namehram murd in ramadan with a fast . . . astaghfarullah kanoon ko haat lagayaing
maybe shes not fasting .. lol
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Because that isn’t what gentleman’s tend to do I guess.
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Oh really!? 
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Ok, as I was talking about this guy in my previous thread. Now when i think of him, I get surprised. He used to be a guy who used to brag of himself as being Allah-fearing, yet I wonder how could an Allah-fearing person do this! Just as when i talked to dad about him & as soon as he came to know about it, he vanished :( and interestingly, he wouldn't answer my phone calls & has blocked my sms messages & even deleted his email address so that i wouldn't be able to reach him. Can an Allah-fearing do this? Now it hurts me to know that i had trusted him :(. I feel so bad. How to feel better? :(. I seriously wish Allah should punish him for this. Will he get punished? :(
They will say what you want to hear till they have you wrapped around their pinky. He's moved-on and you need to do the same, find something productive to do with your time and do things that make you happy. Yes an 'Allah-fearing' person can do this and everything else you've mentioned on your post. Accept that he's no longer in your life, accept that he's moved-on and do the same :)
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
They will say what you want to hear till they have you wrapped around their pinky. He's moved-on and you need to do the same, find something productive to do with your time and do things that make you happy. Yes an 'Allah-fearing' person can do this and everything else you've mentioned on your post. Accept that he's no longer in your life, accept that he's moved-on and do the same :)
I agree & understand but what made the entire thing so difficult for me is that, he decided to do that by ignoring me. Why couldn't he be just direct & tell me that it was over instead of doing this!
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
I agree & understand but what made the entire thing so difficult for me is that, he decided to do that by ignoring me. Why couldn't he be just direct & tell me that it was over instead of doing this!
Because for SOME guys.......it is easier to just disappear than to be direct with the girlfriend and deal with her possible arguing, crying, guilt-tripping, etc. I'm not trying to justify what he did. It would have been more courteous of him to be honest with you.
But here's something to think about. Let's say that he HAD been direct with you and told you that he doesn't want to marry you anymore. Would you have easily accepted the situation and moved on? Or would you get angry and plague him and yourself with a 100 more questions...."Mujh main kya kami thi?" "I went through all this trouble to get my dad to agree and now you don't want me.....why?" ...."Is there someone else?" ...."Why would you even bother with proposing if you didn't want to be with me?" ...."How can you change my mind so quickly?" ..."How can you move on so fast?"
^I might be wrong....you might have felt better if he had been direct with you. But even if a guy is direct with you.....you may still not accept his decision. That said....if you're looking for closure.....then understand that closure comes mainly from YOU...not from him. It comes from YOUR mental acceptance of a situation and YOUR will power/firm decision to persist in moving on with your life. I don't mean to sound preachy, but it's Ramzan and it'll fly by quickly and won't come again until the following year. Duas are more likely to be accepted during this month, so why not use this brief time to ask Allah for help. It might give you some peace.
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
Because for SOME guys.......it is easier to just disappear than to be direct with the girlfriend and deal with her possible arguing, crying, guilt-tripping, etc. I'm not trying to justify what he did. It would have been more courteous of him to be honest with you.
But here's something to think about. Let's say that he HAD been direct with you and told you that he doesn't want to marry you anymore. Would you have easily accepted the situation and moved on? Or would you get angry and plague him and yourself with a 100 more questions...."Mujh main kya kami thi?" "I went through all this trouble to get my dad to agree and now you don't want me.....why?" ...."Is there someone else?" ...."Why would you even bother with proposing if you didn't want to be with me?" ...."How can you change my mind so quickly?" ..."How can you move on so fast?"
^I might be wrong....you might have felt better if he had been direct with you. But even if a guy is direct with you.....you may still not accept his decision. That said....if you're looking for closure.....then understand that closure comes mainly from YOU...not from him. It comes from YOUR mental acceptance of a situation and YOUR will power/firm decision to persist in moving on with your life. I don't mean to sound preachy, but it's Ramzan and it'll fly by quickly and won't come again until the following year. Duas are more likely to be accepted during this month, so why not use this brief time to ask Allah for help. It might give you some peace.
Yes, I would have bombarded him with questions but I believe talking directly would have been far better than running away like this. If he had been direct, i would have known that, the things are over & i need to move on. Him ignoring me like this had kind of make me hang on in between, as i wasn't sure whether he was busy with work, or any other possible trouble with him or if i would get to hear from him again. If he had decided to break up, there might be reasons for it, & i would definitely deserve to know as of why. If he had been direct, then also it would have hurt me just like it did by him ignoring me but at least things would have been clear to me & i wouldn't have tortured myself with thoughts like what happened, what was the reason, etc!
So, at the end, him ignoring me like this just proved that it was his way of break up & he was perhaps just a player & vanished when it was time to involve parents.
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
lol had to laugh at partyslims - but cmon men are much worse then women when it comes to commitment as they do not have the higher emotional intelligence as a women have - very few men have this quality - also men do not like conflict even in they are the ones in the wrong - they have this kind of disease which makes them do this
Man bashing is such fun!!!!!!!!!
Re: Why did he do this? (A question for men)
You have stumbled onto heaven then…enjoy 