Re: Why childcare
*So how do you explain the toddlers/kids who display the same behaviors and worst, that actually do stay at home with their mothers? *
This is a general comment below, so please no one take personal offense... In general I have also seen some really bathmeez/disrespectful kids who are home all day with their mothers. You can't be ignorant and think that only if mother's stay at home with kids do they turn out ok. Everyone's situation is different. Not everyone can afford to stay at home, and no the woman is not always working to afford "luxuries"....its basic necessities too...like food, mortgage/rent, gas/commuter expenses, baby supplies, baby food...etc....not always to have the bigger car, the bigger house or whatever it is that people assume. Everyone has their situation. Not everything is clear cut either... just because a woman will stay home with kids, doesn't 100% mean the kids will turn out better and on opposite side just because a woman is working, does not mean the kids will go stray or whatever other reasons were given. All we can do is hope and pray and do the best we can with our kids.
I think someone said it before...its the "Quality not Quantity"of time spent together that matters most, and the values you teach, and live by example. You try your best, and rest you pray that Allah guides them well.
I have already talked about this in this post. Parents specially mothers should give only love to their children for the first 6 or 7 years. Children specially boys learn to love from their mothers, if they see their parents in anger with them they will do the same to others.
Then probably their parents were like that, aggressive. Often children's behaviour is reflection of their parents actions, if parents don't give any attention to children then children become aggressive or anti social or sometimes quite.
A bad parent should analyse his/her mistakes and sort his/herself out by understanding the needs of children instead of dumping them in a daycare nursery.
And for the quality and quantity theory....that applies to only fathers for only first seven years of a child after that age fathers should spend more time with their children especially the boys.