You dont have to act mean or rude, or as I was once told, one does not have to be an ass to be assertive.
All you have to do is just tell him, politely, in a friendly manner, that this goes against your style and you would appreciate if he respects your boundaries. be firm, be concise, and be nice.
next time he does it, if he does, remind him of your previous request.
beyond that you can totally tell him off, again in a firm manner not a rude manner. dff things.
one does not have to stop being what one is to deal with others.
perfectly said. be adult about it an be assertive. say no politely but make sure he knows it.
So the next day i went back to the cafe, hoping he wouldn’t be there but as always HE WAS! So he came up to me, and try to do the whole hand shake thing, and I told him that I don’t feel comfortable, therefore from now we will only say salaam. So here is his response: “So us not doing a hand shake, this is the whole religious thing, isn’t it?” And to that i said YES! Yep he’s a Muslim
He futher went on to say, “You shouldn’t feel uncomfortable around me, because its not like I haven’t seen you without your hijab.” :aq: How can anyone even bring themselves to say something like that? UFFF:smack: keep in mind I started hijab 3 years ago
So to not make a scene, I told him to just respect and move on, and since then he does not bother me as much, but i feel like he is still trying to convince me to be comfortable with him! WHAT A MORAN!!!
So he has seen u before and that’s why i guess he’s attracted to ya…hmmm that’s a difficult duck to shoot.
But then, i see the manner in which he approaches u and its a tad bit weird. Seriously.
I guess as u said, now that there are almost 3 billion men around the globe, u might just ditch this one for good… unless something dramatic happens (he brings in his parents or he starts wearing a hijab himself…haha)
Anyways, my point is, he’s a Muslim as well, but his manner of approach is…well… not great.
uggh! chichore pan ki bhi hadh hoti hai - i wear hijaab too.. and before i got married i used to study with this group of pakistani’s (mostly guys) - & one of them was the sardar to all chaval-ness
he would drink my coffee, eat my wraps, try n stick with me 24/7; i even foudn out later that he was the one that took my class schedule out of my planner to see where i was during the day
then one day this other guy (from the same group) came upto me and was like dont u realize he has a crush on u and i was like “cheeee” -
so after that day i stopped going there - i went and sat at the other end of the library and made sure that even during classes etc i wouldnt have to sit with him - he came upto me once and i told him tht jst because i sit around with u to study doesnt mean u have the right to pretty much say/do anything, so back off and if i see this happening again ill make sure that u wont be able to sit with your friends again - and it worked! he never bothered me again -
May you be showered with loneliness in life! - not a baduaaaaaaaa - just respecting what you want.
(some girls just act too “oh my gosh” - he digs me - can’t he stop looking at me - can’t he disappear when I am around and all that crap. you know in life you might see him for these “few” days - that you do - then everyone just simply DISAPPEARS from your face regardless - of how much you care or they care about you. Just enjoy the “present”. Tomorrow he won’t be around anyways)
And to that i said YES!
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he never bothered me again -